Thinking about it a bit....

I think our exposure to media sets an impression of physical attraction. Most everyone alive today has been exposed to some type of media where the good guy wears white.
Many people sub-consciously subscribe to dictated features of physical attraction. Just look at the actor/actress/stardom fandom.

People tend to go into relationships based on their perception of how the subject resembles their persons of interest. They match the impression of someone they like.

When we meet people for the first time we associate their looks to people we admire. They may not have any resemblance but our perceptions make the associations.
Time on target reveals the delusions over time. We realize they have no resemblance. It changes how we associate our familiarity with that person. We start to see them as they are, sometimes it results in attraction, sometimes, repulsion.

I have a knack for seeing youthful beauty in women. My age preferences limits the range of perspective matches. I accept aging. More often than not, I see the younger beauty in a woman that matches photos I see later.

I find it is that youthful vision that changes over time. It attracted me but as I gained clarity, her actual visage was not to my preference. Or, just the opposite. Her current visage increases my attraction to her.

My sister and brother-in-law have been married for 51 years. When I asked her she told me she still sees the man she married. He looks nothing like he did when I first met him. Her perception of him is a delusion but it is all she needs. I ask him, he told me the same.

Attraction is all perception. Perception can be reality or delusion. Its all based on personal associations. Associations that can change with time on target.

I'm confused..isn't it you ladies who are always saying looks aren't important? Or do y'all just tell me that?