how do i tell my friend iam in love wirh her

Why do you think you have to tell her.

Do you believe you are such a great actor/liar that you can hide your feelings of love even from your indirect and/or nonconscious driven behavior? Do you believe that she's simply not smart/observant enough to pick up on it?

Or does she simply take your relationship for granted, so doesn't even notice that your feelings have changed to such a significant degree?


Of course that leads in to questions like:
Are you sure you are in love with her?
Is it possible you simply befriend women because female attention is highly validating, socially as well as to the innate procreation urge?
Maybe you really just befriend the opposite sex in order to get that validation, but when they put limits and boundaries on their behavior towards you then you don't get the level of validation you need/want/expect, so you start pushing your feelings and behavior more towards the extreme of where you want the other to feel to try and manipulate a response from them that provides you what you really wanted all along?
A kind of overcompensating in order to get a minimum response?
IOW trying to play a "just friends" game to back into a relationship without having to go through all that stressful yucky learning to communicate and risk rejection stuff.




If she's really your "friend," why can't you honestly talk to her about your feelings and what's going on with you?
Isn't that what friends do?
If you've been honest and yourself with her from the start, as her "friend" why would telling her you have feelings of romantic love for her really be any different than, say, admitting that you farted.

If telling her the truth about you scares you, have you really been honest about who you are with her? Has she really seen you for you?
If not, she's not really your friend so you really don't have anything to lose by confessing your love to her except that she actually begins to start seeing you for who you really are and isn't as manipulated into seeing you how you want her to see you.

When you don't know what to tell, just tell the truth :))

then I'll lose her friendship if she thinks I think about her that way .

don't know .probably just get out of the road

Been feeling really down about it I just want to walk away .I feel sometimes she's very distant then she's getting very close I just wish I had the balls to tell her

Ok.. don't really see where the problem is let your friend know how you feel.. but if she doesn't feel the same let her know
. You just want her to be happy.. and remaining her friend makes you happy
. But when she finds a boyfriend..
You will probably fade out into the backdrop... because after all she's your friend and you want what's best for her..right ?

Yeah Definitely want her to be happy .She's separated from her husband for 7 months I think this is why it's so hard I don't think she's over him yet

Well separated 7 months... she's going to be going thru a whirlwind of emotion I assume, regardless of it being a mutual separation or not.
If u want her to be happy, telling her that u are in love with her, if she hasn't removed herself from her previous marriage - is going to probably hurt u more than anything if u won't be ok with not getting the feelings reciprocated.
U can tell her that u care about her and u want her to be happy and simply ask if there is anything that you can do to help?

it's funny when iam with her we have a good laugh and don't feel that I want to have a relationship with her but when iam away from her I feel really empty .is this more infatuation ?

Nothing wrong with having a good laugh and enjoying each other's company. That's usually what u want in a good friendship or a relationship. But have u asked yourself what it is that makes u say u are in love with her?
When u are away from her- u feel empty? Is it just u remembering the fun time u were having? What else do u have going on in ur life or who else.. keeps u busy or entertained?

Try asking her where she is at in her mind about her past relationship?
If she has let go and has finished with him for good, you could stand a chance.
But I wouldn't say anything till you know where her heart/mind is.

for me im starting to like this girl why4not lol i tell you right now right here i like you ...

If this is true, then she isn't into you. Decode whether to lose a friendship or take a chance

And you..separated or divorced or ??

Dude...you don't even know her

malheureusement non, but i see her pictures and her postes as a begining i like that, so im sure she is a great person, thats enough for the moment

Iam separated but still living with my x to look after my son .

Too much drama for me. Your situation is hard enough. Then your friend won't be your friend if you tell her