do men really have an open mind to let more then just the woman in?

i found it to be hard i tried it twice the second time around i only had
one kid left at home but my daughter ended getting pregnant and it made
him mad because i spent so much time and money on my granddaughter.

I am a man with 4 kids. I am open to all kids because I love kids.
There has to be a good understanding about parenting styles. The new
parent has to have a parents right or it will never work. You can not
bring kids into a home with a step parent and not give punishment rights
to the person. The punishments would have to be addressed before hand.
Wether you use time outs, standing in the corner, types of grounding or
even whipping your children(whipping not beating), it has to be agreed
apon type of punishment for crime/misbehavour and make the children
stick to it. I have seen my brother get into 3 serious relationships
that failed due to this point. All three potential wifes refused to let
him punish their children in anyway. They told him to tell them of the
problem and they would deal with it later. When you do this you make the
kids act differently when the one parent is around from when they are
left with the step parent.

I believe at first I would set limits to a mate on the amounts of
punishment until the kids got used to the new rules(everyone have
different rules even if simular). Like a phase in time period in which
you get to see how they react together.

I do fear getting into a relationship with a woman with several
kids(3+). It is hard finding housing for larger families. I am having a
hard time finding a descent place to live needing a 3 bedroom for me and
the 4 kids I have. It has nothing to do with her having kids but what
will we do with all of them. I know a couple that he had 3 kids and she
had 4 kids and they had a child together for a total of 8 kids. They
actually live in 2 houses side by side(1 double wide mobile home and one
single wide). Their idea is to sell the single wide when the older kids
move out.

But I actually hope she has atleast one child of her own. As I do not
want anymore of my own. To many women can not be happy without being a
natural mother.

Well there ya have it from this man's point of view.

iguess it all comes down to the guy

moomoo64 how old was your daughter when she got pregnant?

kay1605 my daughter 18 when she had her first child she will be 25 in a
couple of months and she has 3 kids

I love dating women with kids. Children mature people. Dealing with
someone who has a child allows me to communicate on a much more mature
level than some fresh out of highschool girl.

I have to agree with steve on this. The typeof lady I would be
interested in being with has to be someone who is not a party animal.
DOnt get me wrong a good party in its time and place, but not every
weekend. And generally isngle parents with kids are at that level of
maturity where they do not party every weekend (or they cant afford it
any mroe, lol)

it depends on alot of different things so i cant ansewer that.

As a woman with children, we are a package, and although we have our own
rhythms and beliefs, we are all inclusive and open towards a new person
in our lives.

What we bring as a family would enhance any man's life, and having been
financially self sufficient for so long, we would not be adding any
extra "weight" or obligation to a relationship.

My children are a gift, and any man that I entered into a relationship
with, would have similar, or compatible beliefs, as I and my children
have, and would see them also as a gift.

For me that is just another facet of compatibility required to enter
into a relationship.

Differences of opinion occur with any group of people, and families do
not differ from this, but with the same respect afforded to others, the
same goes with all members of a family.

Dating a man, or entering a relationship with a man who has children,
works the same way for me, their child is an asset and a gift, and
should be treated so.