Seriously ive been turned down so many times and I know its not my peronality because everyone who knows me says I have the greatest peronality of all, which leads me to believe Im not attractive so Im just wandering.

Nah, you're cute. You may just be going for the wrong kind of girls.

hmm maybe so im not really sure though.

there is nothing wrong with you sweetie. when the time is right you will meet the girl who appreciates you.anything less wouldnt be worth your time anyway.hang in there and never give up.

The best kind of female will want to get to know your heart. Anyone could have a glamourous or cute face, but may not be so nice inside. Hang in there, never get discouraged. Sometimes it's simply best to make friends and see what may happen from that.

Let's get real here for a few minutes.

I am by no means a "stud"...not at all, and like you, I have been turned down before. But, in the grand scheme of things, I have been accepted more times than rejected. Why? Well, my personality (like yours) kicks ass (so I am told too) but I also have this "quiet" confidence within myself that makes me comfortable when talking to a lady. I can be shy, but it is an effective "cute" shy (No...it is not 100% effective either). But I am also confident in who I am. And women pick up on this. From my experience, women do like there men to be confident (not arrogant) in who they are. Which leads me to this question.

How confident are you when it comes to talking to a lady you like, or want to get to know? Personality is one thing, but having a confidence about you when it comes to the other sex is another. You can be Mr. Fun with a group of friends. But how are you when it comes to asking a woman out? If your confidence isn't real good, then this could be the problem.

Why do folks continue to create these type threads ("am I attractive," "am I good-looking")? There will never be honest answers---everyone will regurgitate the same old tired responses: "yes, you're attractive," "it's personality that matters," etc, Ad nauseam...

yeah lets just keep it real

i think ur a cutie.....but hoestly whats looks without a good personality....im a little goofy myself and if someone is the hottest dude in the world and not much convo or fun im gonna go for the dog with the awesome personality every time

you go girl

Men create these threads because they are confused.
They think that women judge them based on looks just as strongly as men judge women based on looks. They look in the mirror and see that they aren't ugly but then wonder why theyve been rejected so many times.
All of these men who create these threads are "nice guys" that lack confidence.

adamisarockstar666, confidence is key. It's sexy and that's the truth. We men are primarily attracted to good looks so we THINK that attractiveness is mainly based on looks to the opposite gender BUT ITS NOT.

How did you shape your personality? Did you base it on the "nice guy" that women SAY they like or did you base it on what women actually respond to with attraction?

Hate to burst your bubble, but women are most definitely initially attracted to good looks. Where this idiotic notion--that women don't care about a man's looks--came from, I don't know (though I do have some ideas on the subject...).

You're not attractive if you have to ask. If you are attractive, you know and don't have to question it.

So, look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how attractive you are, do it when you wake up and before you go to sleep, then see how much better you feel after a few weeks.

i dont believe in turn downs
if they are not interested
move on cause they are better girls out there
plenty of ***** er..i mean fish in tha sea
and sweet tasty fish!!!!

and then know you want better a girl who can truly see into your heart you want more and who actually enjoys things you say
untill you show dat girl so much of being there for her
she tells you she wants to be with you cause she cant stop thinkin about you
then she in love with you
if this can happen to me
it can happen to you bro!

dont give up!

it came from their hearts and respect of true love and compassion towards another human being
dat's where it came from

men do care about looks more than women do, however. we rank looks higher up the list as more of an important factor in choosing mates.
from what i understand, women rate social value and her initial impression of his personality higher than men do.
In short, if a woman is REALLY hot but has a crappy personality, we would like her. If a man has a very attractive personality but didn't look that great, she would like him.

"i dont believe in turn downs
if they are not interested
move on cause they are better girls out there
plenty of ***** er..i mean fish in tha sea"

Come on! You have to turn a woman down at some point... Don't tell me that any woman that asks you out your going to date. Ugggg! Boy I'd be stuck. Keep them all as freinds and wait for the one that likes you enough to keep you.... but don't loose the freinds in case the gl doesn't work out. You don't want to burn your bridge with the other gls.

Oh and btw: Gustava said it right. This should never be a topic. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..... And funny anyways that some people get better looking as they get older so if you think you're ugly then just wait cause maybe you'll get better looking. :).

Stop dealing with insecurities about looks first and you'll have a better relationship when one happens.

Blah blah blah......

"Am I attractive?" -did your voice quaver as you typed it?

We are missing the point here, folks....the real issue at hand is.......Am I Attractive? Or do these jeans make my butt look big? Should I cut my hair? Whiten my teeth? Please....PLEASE! I MUST know.....AM I ATTRACTIVE, DAMNIT!!