I'm 42 and for the last two years been putting my life back on track after getting away from an emotionally abusive spouse. She has been living two years with the guy she replaced me with and our two daughters since forcing me out and finally in the process of divorce. I have been trying online dating sites for off and on months now and no closer to even finding someone to get to know. I know the type of woman I am looking for, what I want from life and someone to share it with. All I need is the chance.

All you can do is plow ahead and you are doing it.
This site is not the best for the confidence, however.
Too many scams and people that never respond.
My guess is that SOME paysites are better because the payment part weeds out the scammers, but then again the scammers may be the ones who are taking your subscription fee.
Keep that chin up, bro. You have a lot of good years ahead. Just make things happen and make good choices when they do.

wow.. 2 years with the guy she replaced you with.... much like interchangeable parts.. apart brakes just change it out with a new one..hmmm... and he is now living there with your children... seems a bit fast to me...hmmm.. are you sure they're your children'..opps.. maybe best not to put that thought in your head.. sorry I'm sure they're yours...