Sixteen Going On 40.. you think you know what I don't know.. you think you see what I don't see.. you think nothing is a big deal..
And I'm old and foolish and over-react
... well let's see how you feel when you're out on the streets.. competing for the Mighty Dollar .. and paying your own bills.

Then tell me what you know that I don't know then tell me what you see that I don't see.. and then tell me that nothing is a big deal.. when you're old and foolish standing in front of your own 16 year old....

It sounds like you might need to give eachother some space.

This makes me dread my daughters turning sixteen. Yikes!

I knew a lot more when I was sixteen. To bad it was all ********.

Been there and through it twice... My only advice to you is.... remember what you did at 16 most likely around the same type of issue... Think~~ what did your parents do?? And did it really make a difference?? If no then what would have to you at that age..


Believe me .. I followed those rules with my two kids.. It most likely saved me a lot of heartache. But now my kids never got a allowance and we lived on a budget.. When they turned 14 they were both told if you want money to spend you can find a job close to home, and work Fri evening Sat and Sun day. What ever you get paid I don't care if you spend it all on bubble gum that is up to you, it's your money make it worth while.. They used their own money to do things and go places with friends.. or buy what they wanted..

I paid for stuff we did as a family but all that extra stuff kids want that they will forget about within 2 weeks.. and have no thought of how hard that money is to come by naw.. Mine learned early just as I did..

Well.. if I disrespected my father guaranteed I'll get the back of his hand...
He would not suffer a fool... do as I ask not as I do..he would say... he said jump we said how high.??..lol.. it helped shape me to be the man I am today... bitter and resentful of my parent..lol.jk..dad

What our parents did in the past don't work today.. Your dad was very strict.. more so then even mine was..

Ya know there is only one way for past teachings to change and that is if we change them. No matter how small the change it will make a difference..

There was things my dad did or did not do with us growing up that I changed when my kids were born..

Just because it is the way our parents raised us it is not always the best way to raise our own.. Change the things that you felt was wrong.. We don't always have to become our parents in ever sense of the word...teach your kids to be independent and you can't go wrong.. it may take them a while to appreciate that but they will..

Not sure what he did or said that you consider disrespectful? That could change the whole out look of things~~

I got the belt ... oh never did I disrespect him ...

I can remember when I was sixteen...
Hi... dad... can I have the car keys please ...

I can't remember... when I left home ...pretty young ...
sixteen or seventeen ... he did not try and stop me ...
just took my new car back and gave me the old one again ...
over the yrs... I did learn a lot about being on my own ...
even though ...I was with someone ... living in big cities ...
you grow up pretty fast ... I have to admit ... I spoiled my daughter ... as much as I could ... becouse she was a gift to me in my later yrs ... and so very proud of her ... very loving ...forgiving ... and independent...

and knows how to work her a** off for the bills and things she may want ... does it for the fam good since to could not love her anymore then I do ...