Haha thanks yall..

So I went over there to work and delivered some home made banana bread.

He nonchalantly asked me to come back tonight and watch a movie. haha..

I agree and think chief is on to something...

hmm i miss girls doing things for me like that... maybe i should start seeing someone agian

u gave him banana bread?? omg i want banana bread
i dunno how true "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is to other guys but that's a definite true rule for me.

Hey he delivered "Plausible Deniability" effectively.
Oh, and for your own sake, make sure you talk to him about something called "managing expectations."

Sounds like he likes you, why wouldn't he?

managing expectations?

some PUAs forget the "managing expectations" stage of pickup which can oftentimes lead to a world of trouble.

Many PUAs are out there for one night stands. They need to avoid women who are seeking long term relationships because these women expect sex to be a promise for a relationship or something like that while the two are in the seduction stage. Managing expectations simply involves making sure that the two of you are on the same page, whatever that page may be, before proceeding into anything that could potentially hurt one or both parties involved.

It went kinda odd last night. We watched the movie and he sat in a chair near me and like I didn't get any vibe he is digging me.. But he did like put his leg against mine a bunch of times

Those small things...

But one of his friends dropped by, and she is this hot girl, and so who knows about that whole thing. So I think I'm gunna leave it alone. I don't like having competition Plus I think if he was into me he'd be more open about it.

what a tool. if you want, tonight you can comeover and watch a movie.. we will def cuddle too.

maybe he is shy and wants you to make 1st move

I am a natural born flirt. Men, women.. I dont care, I flirt. I have lightening reflexes to off handed comments and do not back down from a 'primal challenge'. aka Making and holding eyecontact, or touching a shoulder as I walk behind them saying 'Excuse me.'.. starting a conversation..even walking THAT walk which screams, 'Watch me damnit'. (OK I pretty much do that all the time.. )

My challenge would be waiting momentarily and seeing if they are alpha material. I am normally 'alpha' as far as making the first move...yet I am SO TIRED of doing that.

Guess what? I am still waiting..but will flirt until that alpha grabs me.

Never date a coworker.

Never, ever

I said NEVER date a coworker

Ditto!

looks like he aint all that

oh if only i were older
u sound so fun! i love a challenge
ESPECIALLY a woman that challenges my alpha attitude!
when a woman is too easy it just doesn't feel as great.

Okay chief, send the easy ones to me if you don't want em, it's the only way I have a chance, lord knows the challenging ones are beyond my awkward means.

Yummy, don't just toss in the towel if you like the guy. he might just be nervous. That "hot friend" might be just that, just a friend. Or maybe you think she's hot but he doesn't see her in the same light, people have different perceptions about these things (many times they downplay themselves and put others above them). I'm a pretty shy guy and fearful of rejection so I tend to hesitate and not move in even if the signs are there. And again with perception, you might think the signs are clear as day but he might not. Maybe he thinks oh she's just being nice to me by bringing over banana bread but she's too hot and I don't have a chance.

Maybe start some playful banter. Avoiding saying things that force him to say something decisive. Like if you ask someone "do you like me" that forces him to make that jump or not make it, it's tough to make the jump if you're nervous. If you instead say
"did you like that bread I made for you"
"sure it was great"
"you're not just saying that cause you like me right?"
"oh no, it was really good"
"Oh, are you saying you don't like me, after all that trouble I went through to make you bread, you know I don't make banana bread for just anyone?"

It shows interest in him without him having to do anything other than be polite at the same time you don't really have to make the jump either cause it's more just friendly banter. What's he gonna say, "I hate your stinkin bread" "it sucked" "oh the bread was good, I hate you, make me more bread"

From what I can tell from your pic you're really attractive at least the 3/4 of your face that I can see, who knows about the rest but I think that you see his friend as being hotter and yourself less so than is the case. You're hot, so have confidence in yourself (I'm not just saying that to be nice...I'm not a very nice person.)

No worries, I will flirt with ya!
I, too, a challenge. It is no fun challenging oneself..rather redundant.

Dude it's only easy if you know what you're doing. I can't send grils your way, but I can tell you how to develop yourself into a naturally attractive alpha male.


I think "you're not just saying that cause you like me right?" is GREAT because it's setting the frame that the guy DOES like her, which will actually make the guy like her more. This is just one of the frame-controlling techniques that pickup artists use. However, "Oh, are you saying you don't like me, after all that trouble I went through to make you bread, you know I don't make banana bread for just anyone?" is just weird and kinda creepy lol.



omg i really hope i get the opportunity to say that one day (all in a playful, flirtacious manner, of course )

Frame controlling, wow I have no idea what I'm doing lol.

Yeah that last line is a bit weird but said in a playful manner the intention would be to show that she's interested in him without her having to say it directly. This way he doesn't think she just likes to bake a lot and has like a truck full of banana bread that she's trying to unload. Some girls are just nice and will make stuff for people even if she's not interested in them.

I just think the guy too nervous to make the first move and he's not sure if she's interested. So I don't think she has to build attraction but rather just get the guy to say whether or not he wants to date her. I'm just trying to build light banter so neither side really has to risk rejection but the intentions would be more clear in an emotionally safe way.

Well I stole his phone number from work --- and sent him a text, kinda playing around with words to see if he'd pick up on it. Since he is a writer. But maybe he thought I was being a moron lol..

I was like "I stoled your number! jus kidding. I was sitting at work bored and saw the number board so now you're a victim of boredom. " (something like that anyways)

then he was like "it's o.k. U have my number! sorry you're bored..."

so that was some boring texting. I am so waiting for him to make a move and he isn't so it's just telling me to back away and not go for it. But who knows. I'm just gunna take it slow anyways and see what happens. But at least I was putting it out there I was interested enough to steal his number.