Rob i wish all those were true about me lol i am mature in some ways but as you defined immaturity it kinda touched a straw i know it when a person doesn't understand me out of experience and previous conversations i do have with that person. it also helps that i am a very stubborn person who hates confrontations lol i guess in this way yes my fire sign shows and it takes some time before it dies down ....but this thread is not about me lol i apologize guys. peace and thank you Rob for giving me a chance to vent out lol

Nah, Skeptical, u don't think you were off topic! I like what you said!!!

I dont know if to call it immature skeptical, but I think that it would be great if you gave the person a fair chance to listen to you,and understand where you are coming from.

If you are no longer willing to give a person the chance to try to understand you better, then why be in a relationship with them?

No need to feel bad for venting hun. and I think most of us are stubborn in one way or the other so you are not alone.

hello peggy thing is i am only this way with people who i do have a relationship with lol i understand that they do not understand me i do listen and i have been listened to but then sometimes i know when to just stop and keep the peace to keep the relationship

speaking my mind gets me into trouble most of the time...less talk less mistakes less complications

Hi skeptical
Well it sounds like you;ve worked out some kind of a balance in your approach, which is a good thing :)

thanks peggy i always look forward to your posts never boring most of the time thought provoking

Thanks skeptical. I admire your posts too

For me, I would say it depends on every individual. Giving a silent treatment doesn't mean an individual is immature, it's neither a punishment nor cutting off communication with someone. Silence could mean many things. I am always a fair person and tries to listen to reasons or explanations. But there are times when we are too emotional and sensitive that we break down easily if we are in a confrontation, thus we prefer to take some time to calm down to compose oneself and see some reason in silence rather than engage in a confrontation that might heat up a situation. If in a relationship of course it is important that we have to give reason to our partner why we want to have some time for ourselves. Cutting them off without warning is definitely not healthy. When in a relationship both should be more open about their feelings and making sure that you both understand each other by respecting one's privacy of having some time for herself or himself. I don't like confrontations, it easily makes me feel vulnerable and cry easily that's why I would rather just keep silent for a moment but I have to let my partner know why. I would only message him through text but not talk coz I would definitely just cry. If a person doesn't understand you and doesn't know how to listen to some reasons, then it is not your problem but his. If someone whom I just met, and haven't established a good emotional attachment yet, being silent doesn't mean you are totally ignoring or cutting him off , but maybe because you are just waiting for him to message you for you are not comfortable messaging a man first. Maybe you just try to see if someone is really interested with you or not. If someone is silent with me, I wouldn't take it so badly. I would give him some time to prove himself or explain why. Though he is not oblige to explain why, but if he does then I would greatly appreciate it and will listen to reasons. We all have a gift of discernment, I am sure we could identify a valid and reasonable excuse from a lie? if I see the need to permanently be in silence then silent treatment it shall be

Yes Dolphin. People need silence sometimes to compose themselves. Thats totally understandable.

This thread is strictly referring to the silent treatment as a means of punishment