Why is love difficult to find in social media and dating platforms?

Because it is one of the "most" abused platforms for meeting single people. You have to "build" trust, cross your t's and dot your i's. Trust is not a given anymore it has to be earned. We are here looking for a life partner, not scratching a itch and you will not find someone fast. It takes time to weed out players, cat fishers, and gold diggers. And you ask us to explain what love is? Really guy, your 56, a widower, with two children, are you asking "us" what love is, or do you not really know? I can tell you it's complex, love is a encampment of many things. And, that is all I am going to tell you.

And my man, this is a whole new ball game since your where in the playing field I would say close to 30 years. First thing I would seek professional advice, quickly from a counselor like a Behavior Specialist cause you have a whole lot of catch up to do. Welcome to the 21st century.

Love is difficult to find anywhere, online or out there. These are strange days we live in and many people are in a state of confusion most of the day. With confusion comes irrational distrust and paranoia. People aren't as ready to strike friendships or relationships like in the past. Too many people have been burned, they gave trust and were repaid with treachery.
What's more, the dynamic between men and women has been serious damaged with frivolous divorces which usually leaves one partner not financially viable and with the constant and regularly updated demands on courtship, it's no wonder that love is hard to find.
Bide your time and work on your personal contentment. When you feel good and are cheerful from inner peace, it shows and usually attracts same.

It isn't.
It is just a global cozy bar, whether you introduce yourself
or not is your choice.

Social media merely hands you formats from which to choose, it
is still up to you to seal the deal.

Love can come along anywhere, at any time.
You just need recognize it.

Love for me is the intense inspiration and commitment to nurture ,support, trust, and protect another individual , and all the passionate feelings and physical sensations that such a dynamic evokes. As a friend once said, "romantic love is friendship on fire!"

As for why its hard to find love online, I think its because most people wrongly assume that the basic rules of ALL dating are cancelled in an online setting.

Even though you are at home in your ugly t-shirt behind your keyboard, first impressions are still important.You still have to put effort into your profile pic , profile information , and your opening line, knowing that yours has to stand out among hundreds of others to inspire a second glance , and a response from the viewer .

You still have to do your part to keep the conversation interesting and consistent enough to secure a first face to face date.

You still have to consider saftey issues as in offline dating but even more so online, since the potential for scammers, stalkers, liars etc are trippled online, and your guard has to be up alot of the time

You still have to have a thick skin for potential rejection , but an even thicker one online, since the rejection rate is trippled with increased prospects.

Before you find the one person who likes you back, you have to wade through sometimes dozens of people that dont like you or who are the wrong fit for you. This process often takes months and even years!

And you have to be committed to the process of getting to know each other . Most people are so hearbroken after they realise the person they fell in love with in a month is not who they thought they were 2 or 6 months down the line.

Online dating is way harder than it needs to be because people discard those rules, and treat online dating like ONLINE SHOPPING.

Most end up shell-shocked and devastated when they see someone they like online , throw a quick "hi" their way like they would swipe a credit card for the product of their desire, but then fail to see that glorious shiny purchase show up at their doorstep in a few weeks.

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Trust! You need to meet in person and date to know a person! Online don't do that!

I agree.

I don't think love is hard to find...its just finding a compatible soul to spend time, love and life with...






NOW GO MAKE ME A SAMMICH!!!!
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Boy! Some people must just live in a different world than mine.

If Love was easy to find, we all wouldn't be here and dating sites would make NO money.
Love is Isa precious and rare thing. I'm talking about genuine Love here, not some temporary arrangement one knows will end with a monthly check.
Love is rare, that's why it's precious to all of us and that's why some of us jump through hoops just to a get all ND taste of it.

you are absolutely right

i wanna know what love is...i want you to show me...i wanna feel what love is...i know
you can show me.

(just providing the background music )

Me too.

anything of so much value and quite rare is really difficult to have and sometimes even harder to keep .

Lol