Please read my profile and let me know your opinions here...

THANKS in Advance for Not trashing me too bad

u sound like a nice person.my advice if u wanna meet sum1 put up a real pic of u.

Nice profile,lose the bf unless u r instantly going to become his 1 and only.but somehow i dont think so.sorry if my honesty upsets u.

Ok since you posted the same thing twice I figure you must want my advice, so here goes.

Because he knows that you know he has a girlfriend, but you are still there, tells him that you are easy and cheap. You are his spare tire. You allow him to be the dog he is. Even if he was to dump his current gf and be with you, you would always be wondering who he is keeping on the side. You cannot build a long-lasting relationship when your foundation is built on lies and deceit. So should you dump him? Yes. And in the meantime you need to work on your self-esteem. You need to find someone who puts you first in his life, and not settle for being second best. Good luck to you.

no worries I asked for honesty

You all have been very helpful

helping me see what i know to be true :(

Very good response. Sadly, there are a lot of people who have been in relationships like this and they need someone outside it to step in and say the words to get them to move on.

What makes you think he would be faithful to YOU if you became number 1 girlfriend? If his girlfriend doesn't know about you he must be a good liar.

She's right.

There is NO WAY the relationship will work. Let me rephrase that. There is no way the relationship will be a happy one. You will NEVER trust this guy. Don't continue the pattern of dating the "wrong men". Only you have the power to change it.

As for your profile. I would start all over. Make it positive, don't mention the past relationships. Say what your interests are, what makes you laugh, etc...

I'd also like to say "don't lose faith"! You gotta kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince. If finding the right man for you were easy, dating sites would not exist.

yea even if he said he was faithful, I'd always wonder--

I wasn't sure about opening my self up to strangers BUT, this has been good, you all have made me cry But in a good way seeing all the truth-- reality hurts, tears heal (i hope)

All things i knew but did not want to face are here in black and white and very undeniable.

Thank YOU all so much,,, this seems like a nice place with kind caring people i may stick around see who's here :)

THANK YOU ALL

THANK YOU ALL

i will say to you like i say to my gf's who have done this...what makes you think you are the special chosen one? if he is cheating on this gf, he will on you. bad habits are hard to break. why are you playing second fiddle? you dont deserve to throw all your energy into a no where going situation. move on and find the one that YOU deserve! you are better than that! good luck sweetie!

I guess the first thing I would like to say is that you really need to dump that man!! You need to get some confidence in yourself and never let anyone stick you on the back burner. You are 48 years old and I can not believe that you would allow that to happen.
Even if this man did leave his current girlfriend do you honestly think he would only be with you? You allowed him to be with someone else while he was with you, he knows that you think its alright....so he is going to continue having other girlfriends IF he ever considers you a girlfriend.
I always say this...if you can look at yourself in the mirror and feel good about yourself, then continue the relationship you are in!! Can you do that?? I don't really think you can, you know he has a girlfriend...why would you do that to anyone? Why in the world would you want to hurt anyone? Why would you really want to put yourself through this?
Do you really think this man cares about you OR his girlfriend? He couldn't...if he did, he wouldn't be with two different women at the same time. Your best bet is to walk away and find you a man that you can call your own. Why do you want to share one when there are so many out there?

I also wanted to say that I think I would change my profile. Maybe you might meet someone new, then you could dump that man and start a fresh new relationship.
In a profile never mention the past or you will never meet anyone for your future!! Good luck

Someone on here said a quote and I am going to steal it and say it to you!! Really think about it, I did and it has made me stop and think about a lot of people in my life...even my friends!!
DON'T MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY WHO ONLY MAKES YOU AN OPTION

That saying has been around for a number of years. And it's very true.

yeah and also throw in...
NOBODY CAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU UNLESS YOU LET THEM.

definately self esteem

After reading your profile dump the guy with the girlfriend you will find someone who won't treat you like that who will treat you as a life partner.

Welcome and advice, After reading the profile, I do not know anything about you other than your two messed up relationships. Are pleasant to be around? Are easy going, hard driven, independent, dependent, etc.... What are you looking for in a man other than he not be controlling and manipulating or attached? JMO Welcome

get a NEW profile .. i new lease on life .. and maybe someone NEW will come into your life? someone WORTHY of YOU ?
just a thought
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