Hello Everyone,

My head is going in about fifty different directions, and I just need to vent.

I am that girl who is always "Just a friend" and nothing more. I get really close with someone, feel the chemistry, and then get too close to be "more than friends". I have never had any type of relationship, because this always happens. Guys in my life use this excuse to hide the fact that they are ashamed of being with me. They refuse to look a little deeper to find the real me. They refuse to see past my exterior. They refuse to acknowledge the fact that I've lost 45 pounds. No matter how much weight I lose, what I do to my hair, I get no validation at all. I'm not looking for anything special. I just want someone who accepts me as a work in progress.

So yes, my head is crazy. Thanks for letting me vent.

You are beautiful sweet one...and someone will come along who will see it and appreciate you for you.

Congratulations on losing 45 pounds - that is FANTASTIC!!!!!!

I wish you well!

people are shallow. and i can't pretend i'm not one of them. even though i'm the "friend" quite often myself. but if they don't love you for you...they don't deserve you anyway. keep your head up, cuz that special someone will come! =]

be more upfront with them, dont play the friendship game get to the point, and at least then youll know what the relationship is between the 2 of you, then work from there. Sorry i dont have more knowledgeable advice.

We all need validated from time to time. Just keep working on you. Keep improving (remember to do it for you and not anyone else) and keep doing things to feel good about you. There is someone out there who will appreciate you. You just haven't found him yet. Keep your chin up and stay positive.

There someone for you he will find you.

guys can be such jerks!!

as dumb and annoying as it sounds you just have to wait for that one guy who will always be with you whether you weigh 500 pounds or 5 pounds...

it sucks that we live in a world where looks matter so much...but trust me, you dont ever have to change who you are for some guy! they arnt worth it!

So can women...

They'll look past the exterior when YOU do. Any make-up you wear, hairdo you sport, weight you lose should only be about you because that's what YOU want...I know a little about this, so you can drop me a line whenever.... Love yourself, be confident, and don't LOOK for love...let it FIND you. :)

haha kalamazooguy...you're right...we can be!

sounds good to me!

yeah i hte being the nice guy, thats y i stopped , especially at school, i mean im still nice to peple dont get me wrong but not like super nice like before im going 50/50 and lately ive been getting more attention than i have in the past u guys should try it just change and see wat happens

nah, just be your self dudette

that hasnt worked int eh past 18 years

Thanks Guys =)

And I like being myself...Trying to take off the mask I wear :-)

I use to be just like you, I was always over looked!! I lost 125 pounds and have kept it off going on 3 1/2 years now. The one thing I have said is, if someone would not give me a chance when I was heavier...why would I give them a chance now?
I am the same person now except I have a different outside shell. I have the same heart, so why would someone that would never look at me before want a chance with me now?? In my eyes..it will never happen!!
You just be true to yourself and be happy with you!! If you have a beautiful heart and you are a good person, NEVER give someone a chance to hurt you. Never allow them to put you on the back burner and allow that to be alright!!
The first person you have to love is yourself, if you do that...then everyone else will love you too!! Make sure you have lots of self confidence because that is a very sexy thing. Keep your chin up and keep doing what your doing!! Good luck Congrats on the weight loss!!