How do you get over someone who will always be apart of your life? So my current ex and i broke up recently. We broke up because neither of us were very happy in our relationship and it had been like that for about a year. I still have strong feelings for him, and i know he does for me too. Here's the difficult part...He is still living with me and we have a one year old son together. Not to mention that my best friend is his sister. It seems like there is no escaping him. Part of me still wants to be with him, but i feel like it will just get bad again, and i will end up hurt all over. At the same time i want to be free, but it hurts not being with him, so either way it feels like i am setting myself up for pain.

cmon, your only 20, whole life ahead of you

shoot him, that usually does the trick

As long as he lives with you you will never be free. But at the same time if you have a child together he will be in a part of your life forever. It's not easy but you will get through it but first get him out of the house.

Well you could be happy with your son and his dad can still be a part of your life if he wish's to, which would help for your son more so then you.

If your that unhappy by be with some one, you sound like you made a mistake and it happens because you or him didn't protect either of your self's from the sounds of things.

But that was then and this is now and you have a son to take care of.

If you want to why not be friends with your Ex surely you have feelings for him and he might for you as well but why make something that hurts you in some way shape for forum keep going on and on, really it makes no sense to me that is.

And as one poster stated your only 20 years old, so in one way you have your life and your son life a head of both of you and who's to say you won't find any one else who you might like better and be more happier with now that doesn't mean your son dad can't be part of either of your life just because he may or may not have treated you badly etc.

Good luck to you, and surely things will work out in the end.

I agree with Hurriedwoman. He is always going to be a part of your life because of your son. If you both agreed your better apart than together it is just going to take time. Its going to hurt for a while but be strong. Make decisions and stick to them. Always put the baby 1st. But dont be with him for the baby. That will only make you resentful. Good luck. Be strong. Follow your heart.

Welcome Jen1515
Lots of nice people here.

You NEED to FIND-OUT what YOU WANT,,,BEFORE """"EVER""" thinking about MEETING ANYONE ELSE!!!!!!

You and him still share a bed a home and the raising of your child together...

Try to find out and talk about WHAT IS WRONG, with the BOTH of you, in YOUR relationship,,,,,,THEN, work on the problems....

And LOVE EACH OTHER FOREVER...


Or find out the problems can't be fixed. and GET THE HELL OUT OF LIVING TOGETHER....and on to STARTING OVER AGAIN...
Then START LOOKING FOR ANOTHER !!!!! NOT NOW!!!

DON'T LET SOME DUDE HERE HELP YOU BREAK UP WITH YOUR GUY,
SO HE CAN USE YOU FOR A WEEK OR TWO AND DUMP YA......

ANY RELATIONSHIP takes TIME and EFFORT to COMMIT TO IT, TO MAKE IT WORK.....

GOOD LUCK..