my x's call'ed me two day's ago
and ask if it would be ok if she
could come over to eat with are kid
on thank's giveing well thought sure why not
so i call'ed her last night to let her
know what time to be here well guess what
she wouldn't even pick up the phone.so am
sitting here with every thing done and a
kid wondering where is mom is iv tried many
of time's to call her today and still the
same i can handle it i'v be alone befor
her doing it to the kid some thing is wrong
with her...

beats me...my son's exwife has been to visit their daughter for 20 mins in 2 months...i don't get it either

btw i don't think you're foolish, just trying to make the day nice for child

she's twisted and you did nothing wrong but trust her just bear it in mind for next time love

Some people are just CRUEL...that's all there is to that. Why would they intentionally hurt a CHILD???? Adults could always try to work it out in their mind, but to hurt a child...is unforgiveable in my eyes

On the other hand....she called you 2 days ago, but you didn't try to call her back until last night. Maybe she took that as meaning you didn't want her there so she made other plans?

Is it possible the guilts of all the past stuff she feels she has done, has overwhelmed her?

It does suck for the child, perhaps try explaining that she may have felt too guilty and undeserving of sharing a meal...she wanted to, or she wouldn't have called in the first place, but now she feels she doesn't deserve it.

Is that at all possible?

o i did talk to her when she call'ed
and we did make the plans.her other son came by
and said she was at home with her boy friend
but yet she didn't pick up the phone..

I would say next time she calls to make arrangements to seee the kids,, Dont tell the kids and get there hopes up. If she does make it they will be happy if she dont then all is well.
Just my 2 cents

That's just wrong...wrong wrong wrong. Shouldn't play head games with the kids.
My ex didn't call or anything one Xmas. He saw my daughter that dec 7th and then she finally missed him sooo bad that on jan 24th she called him. He said sorry and said he would come get her. I was sooo mad I had her give me the phone and leave the room. I chewed his a.. and asked him how he could do that to his child. His excuse was busy. AWWWWWWWWGH. One of many times hurt her feelings. well she is grown and has 2 kids of her own now and wishes for him to NEVER see them. I told her I was sorry I didn't give her a better dad. I just don't understand parents like this.
So what goes around comes around.
I am truely sorry for the pain she caused your children

I had THAT same thing happen with my two boys, and after getting them all dolled up to see mommy,,,,,($(&$^$*#*)(@)@^ MOMMY 'never called', 'never showed up',,,,NOTHING????

So when I DID SEE HER AGAIN, I told her NEVER would I put our kids through THAT again,,,
I said, IF YOU COME OVER, FINE, if you don't FINE TO,,,but THE KIDS, will never LOOK AT ME WITH THAT DISSAPOINTMENT in there eyes, because YOU did'nt have the desire to let THEM or me know, you was'nt coming....

Just over-look HER, and have some FUN with your son...
Your children will GROW to SEE HER, as she IS....

My Ex-husband was good for doing that when the kids were small. He was lucky if he saw them twice a year, and that was his doing -- not mine. But now that my kids are grown, neither of them wants anything to do with him. He made his choices then, they make their choices now.

May I offer some advice please?

Take it with a grain of salt if you choose.


Do not denigrate the other parent in front of the child...to put down the parent, is to put down the child...they are half of you and half of them.

My kids have not heard hide nor hair from their father for over 8 years, no birthdays, no xmas, no graduations, nothing, and probably not their weddings...my eldest went off to war, no father to wish him well... we all have stories... but never will I dishonour their father, the kids were made in love.

GOD...
Now I know why I admire you so much!!!! That just says it all!!!!

GOD JESS, Im sorry to hear that...
And I would agree except in cases of ABUSE, THAT shouldn't be viewed as LOVING or CARING or GOOD. But truthful to the point anewer's for them to LEARN and KNOW "WHAT" that parent did, and why. My thoughts here anyway...
And GOOD to READ YA AGAIN.....lol

I am sure you can imagine Terry, the questions the kids ask...and have asked over the years, the littlest were 2 and 4..

I always answer, "I honestly don't know...but know you were created in love, I loved your dad very much, and he loved me and all of you."

I don't know why people do what they do...and it is rude of me to assume I do.

They have arrived at their own decisions, with no bias from me, I show them photos of them and their dad, and the way he looked at them...

I want my kids to know they were and are loved.

YEP, mine were raised by me but had two other dads, and I raised them W/O telling them any BAD of ether..And they grew to SEE, and LIVE what the OTHER was like and about..
I have come to really believe that "SOME" people just are not MADE to be good parents,,mostly because of there DESIRE to BE ONE..
You done the right thing and YOUR kids all know THAT and RESPECT YOU for IT...

just shows why Jess is one the greatest people!

Hey YOU !!!! OMG !!! hello.... How are you???

Your RIGHT Easy......She's always open to SEE the BIG picture..