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Topic: "I'll tell you later"
peggy122's photo
Mon 04/03/17 01:17 PM
Some guys have told me that they don't want to say too much about themselves in their profile so they will have more to talk about when they actually connect with a person.

But on the whole , I think people have a very lazy , sloppy approach to online dating and presentation.

It used to upset me, but now I just imagine all of them recovering from being hit by a bus , on a hospital bed without the ability to type much, or read or comprehend.

It fills me with compassion .


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Mon 04/03/17 01:20 PM
lol Peggy,, you are too much: laugh: laugh

yeah, I was going to say generally speaking it implies laziness and a fairly shallow interest in actually getting to know or be known by anyone.

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Mon 04/03/17 02:29 PM


You know, I think you are right about the guys on this site just look at the photo's and base their response without ever reading the profile. You would think that if someone really wants to get to know someone they would at least try to find out a little bit about the other person before jumping to the next pretty face.


It isn't just men


flowerforyou

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Mon 04/03/17 02:34 PM
In profile terms it means I have nothing interesting to say or I'm lazy.

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Mon 04/03/17 02:43 PM
Edited by Unknow on Mon 04/03/17 02:45 PM
At my age, I'm never going to message a profile of someone who couldn't even be bothered to complete the registration process. If they can't think of anything to write after 40+ years on this earth, they'll bore me. Being shy isn't an excuse because all we're doing is writing words on a screen, like an online application. If you'd like a bite from me, be prepared to bait the hook properly smokin

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Mon 04/03/17 02:58 PM
What kind of profile statement is this trying to present to people.

IMO/IME it's not really a statement people are trying to make.
IMO/IME it's usually people that are bored and/or lonely that are just "checking out" a website.

They just sign up as quickly as possible, many times via a phone app where they don't really want to type very much, in order to go look at profiles as quickly as possible to see if it's worthwhile to actually put any effort into it.

They aren't really looking to make a "profile statement," they're trying to hurry up and get to the browsing and messaging and talking to people.

If they don't get a decent experience (lots of non scammers, lots of attractive people, lots of meaningful interaction), they just don't come back.
If they do get a good experience, then they come back, and by that point they don't really need to update their profile so forget about it not having any information, it hasn't been necessary.

Or they just come back on to screw around, not really "serious" about dating, just interacting. Sometimes they will then fill out their profile, sometimes in ways that are simply meant to manipulate a response for their own entertainment.

Profiles are meaningless.

People can say whatever they want and you have absolutely no means of verifying the information. Even if you meet you won't really be able to determine if some of the things on their profile are true or not until you've been seeing them for a while.
And do you really believe after a few dates, a few weeks, a few months, you're going to be carrying around a copy of their profile to compare and contrast, or constantly going back the the dating site and to their profile to be reminded of what they said and hold it against them?

it's most likely a M2 thing

It's a free dating website thing within a burgeoning culture of people addicted to the glass teat and impersonal interaction on demand.

implies laziness and a fairly shallow interest in actually getting to know or be known by anyone.

IMO it implies people trying to make online more like real life.
IMO more people want the experience to be more like "I just happened to go to the party, we saw each other across the room and...it just clicked! We just knew! It just happened!"

Rather than "I sat down and created a powerpoint presentation outlining all of my positive and negative traits, winnowed it down to the most relevant, contacted a dating agency to set up an interview with a potential mate, where we went through our dating resumes to come to the rational and logical conclusion that we were of optimum compatibility."
Which is basically what focusing on meaning in profiles is.


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Mon 04/03/17 09:58 PM

In profile terms it means I have nothing interesting to say or I'm lazy.

Haha Waterloo I do believe your profile says it all! :smile::laughing:

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Mon 04/03/17 10:10 PM


You know, I think you are right about the guys on this site just look at the photo's and base their response without ever reading the profile. You would think that if someone really wants to get to know someone they would at least try to find out a little bit about the other person before jumping to the next pretty face.


It isn't just men

You're dead right there.
I hardly look at profiles anymore but when I used to a lot of them were blank with 'I'll tell you later' only.

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Mon 04/03/17 10:54 PM
A Lot of the time it is the other person's. .
Need to have you.. show enough interest to pry the information from them.... they would like you to dig deeper... I call these people... ER license people... just like your driver's license it only has the basic information... which is just enough..
Information.. to allow the doctors..
To inform.. your next of kin that you are brain dead...lol..

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Tue 04/04/17 01:51 AM

No, they don't look profiles. Only pictures. Because if they would bother to look at my profile, they wouldn't try send friend requests or try matching with me.


I think a lot of them don't for the same reason. Someone even asked where I live whoa Obviously he didn't read my profile!

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Tue 04/04/17 03:27 AM
My thoughts....I'll tell ya later. After I thought of my thoughts. shades

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