I am not playing here, I don't like what coolhead said and I told him so. Read it. You got in my stuff abd I fired back. We have a common enemy. Be cool and I will.

Ok John truce I'm down with that.

now if we can only figure out how they stack shyt as high as 5'5"

so meet in public places when the timing is appropriate....

I will keep that in mind.......

Start with 5 inch platforms...

I believe it is up to the couple and when they feel it is right.

as for the ones fighting .... this is a site to find a mate and friends not enemies. so just take it that people have different personalities and don't keep things going in high anger gear. Just ignore them and they will be talking to themselves.

Anthony.....

one thing that could be offered as far as dating goes that has worked in the past for some daters is...give them an option to bring a friend on a date it is something I offered in the past when it came to meeting some one face to face it helps make your date at ease and also shows that you can be personable with more than one person.

Cool man, I did not like what Coolhead wrote and went for him. It turned to you, Sorry. Truce, for sure.

WOW Can't believe this all was said. Thanks for the warning.

Thought it was going to be a good thread at first.

I went 4hrs. this past wknd in hopes of meeting someone. We had made the plans, and wether he chickened out. Who knows. THings happened (wether true or not) and we didn't meet, and he finally told me the distance was too far. SO do you think I appreciated driving all that way to have a f****** no show???? It totally turned me off. Why couldn't he tell me he thought the distance was going to be a major deal for him before I went to the trouble of driving 4 hrs.

I'd personally make sure I got to know someone better next time. Problem is, I really liked this guy and think he's a great guy (as long as he was telling me the god honest truth) If he's lying (and I've asked him to prove to me the situation) I've lost all respect for him.

5'5" damn I can crap bigger that that. Waht a little sphinterherhead. He is an ass.

Thanks for bringing back Torreybelle. I tried early on but no go. just a fight, but was fun. HaHa Damn good fight. Why not Right?

This is still a great thread topic...

was it 4 hours total or 8 and ya both split it? That sucks.... would have been nice if he told ya the distance was too far before you started your journey....

Good communication is needed.....at all times....

I went 4 hrs. and he was to drive 1hr. 15min.

My daughter goes to a college where we were going to meet. SO I made plans to visit her also. Thank god!!!!

Wow.............I am amazed at the things that have been said and exchanged.....it is simply amazing...having said that...there where some great examples of what to and what not to do....I certainly have learned a thing or two...

Please, lets try to keep the topic in focus and personal agendas and issues out, thank you so................

Since we had an outer discussion someone emailed me to condense the most direct related responses...here is a summary of sorts, I hope I got everybodys input....would love to hear some more..

Everyone is different...some people are more hesitant to meet in person and some want to meet without even so much as getting to know someone. It all depends on what you are looking for and how eager you are to meet someone. Sometimes it is just plain right between two people and you fall in love without ever meeting, hehe. There is no hurt ever, in asking. If you dont, you will never know!:)

I think that all depends on the individuals involved. Some people may want to meet right away, others want to wait. You just have to be able to agree upon an acceptable time frame with the person you're interested in.

There is no right or wrong answer to this question...I agree with the majority, it depends on the individuals and their comfort levels...When two people know what they want and they have a chance to fall in love, than there are no rules to when you should meet....Take a chance, isn't this what we are all here for anyway....

There are manuals to this game of life dude... throw the dice and roll with it... sometimes ya get 7's and sometimes snake eyes....
Just don't hang it up in a week because your princess didn't show up in the forum, mutual match or fall at your email doorstep...
I like to BS here, have fun laugh, kick back and de-stress...met some great people...as friends...only.
Just be careful of the rope you pull on.... and who it might be attached to.... don't play Tarzan either, too many forum walls to smack yourself silly on....
Best of all just be you.....

well there benifits of waiting a bit before you meet, i mean with me and my girlfreind we waited a bit before we met and in that time we got to know each other very well and it just made meeting even better cos nither of us was as nervous as we would have been if we had met up straight away.

When someone posts a poem as their own and you google a few stances and it pops up in lyrics...then you know you have been snowballed....

talk on the phone or here or both
and if you can find an agreeable situation to meet then go about it

nice public places make the most sense for this action a place to have refreshments in any kind and atmosphere good for talking
Be cause it is a first meeting

As for your questions, Jess had it right. 5 minutes to 1 year. Really though, whatever is comfortable for you and the person you have interest in.


Be safe, do it in a public place for a short meeting (coffee, drink, etc).


I believe it is up to the couple and when they feel it is right.

one thing that could be offered as far as dating goes that has worked in the past for some daters is...give them an option to bring a friend on a date it is something I offered in the past when it came to meeting some one face to face it helps make your date at ease and also shows that you can be personable with more than one person.