hi my name is carla and i would like to know
what men have against disabled women? just curious!

I think most men expect physical perfection, which is ludicrous. A few of them - myself included - are far more interested in how a woman thinks and acts, but I suspect we are a small minority.

Dan

Hmmm.. I don't think it's a question of having anything against disabled women...

It's more of a question of a man having to give that much more of himself.... most men not all but most myself included are selfish..yes.. come on guys admitted were selfish...lol..
So the thought of having to .. put even more effort into a relationship... give more to someone.. in the forms of learning how to cope with their disability.. learning there.. abilities and disabilities.... they're special needs... what they can and can't do..
Becomes a bit daunting..... but don't give up hope there are men that are able to give a lot of themselves..
And are able to rise .. to the occasion..

Those are truly great man... men of real substance and character...
All women should be so lucky...
But hold on to this fact.. those men are the men... that most disabled women and up with.....
So do not look on the downside look on the upside.... at the end of the day you will end up with a Superman...

Humm I have seen this question from both men/women so it is not just one sex or the other....

I would say that when someone is looking for a partner it does not have to do with if they are handicap or not. It has to do with how much of the handicap limits that person from being able to do and get around...

I know those that are handicap but by looking at them it does not hinder them from doing many things that others can do... Then there are those that are to the point that it keeps them from doing every day life or the things that another does enjoy, and they are seeking those that can be as active as they are... So to a point it may limit one from dating some but not all...

And it surely is not just men that will by pass a person due to what they are limited at what they can or can not do...

It all depends on each persons lifestyle and how active they are, as well as can the person they are interested in fit that lifestyle~~

Honestly if that hinders one from being with that person it is much better to know from the beginning then later~~

The same thing that women have against disabled men.

Hi carla, why do you ask this? Is it because you have been here since 2013 and have not found love? Nothing to do with being disabled. I've been here as long as you have and I'm not disabled.. but I still have to get myself a date.

There are members who are not looking and have been found their match.. wtf!
We must be jinxed... ok not you

certainly not all men
for it that were true then no woman
with any form of disabilty would be in a relationship
but many are married

mmmmm...it may be a different thing
if two people are already in a committed relationship
and then one or both begin dealing with issues
as they get older

Why do women generalize?

Like everything, generalizations are not accurate on any side

I think it is more about self definition. If you see the sum of yourself as disabled and that is what you project about yourself then that is how others will see you.

I am many things; things that men generally find very desirable for a friend, date, wife, mother, and citizen in general. Can I, could I always do those things without "help" to one degree or another. No
But I did not make my "needs" the responsibility of my parents,siblings, friends, or dates at dome point spouse's

Maybe that I'd why most don't reject me as disabled evrm though I assure you I have meet the legal definition.

impressive...