Why dig?

I've met a few people that have their chit together. There are whole people that have intelligence, wisdom and respect for others. They consistently make correct decisions and direct their own life path. Any insecurities they may have are dealt with quietly and personally.

Having one's chit together does not mean they have no issues in their lives. It means they handle their issues without fanfare, personally and as they arise. They accept the things they know they can't change. They don't dwell in the past or fantasize over the future. They exist very much in the present. They are comfortable with who they are and precise in their methods.

One of the things I try to do is acknowledge the person that is "in front of me". Its hard to do sometimes but I have found that allowing the person to be themselves without my impression of who they should be getting in the way allows me to understand that person better. I don't look for chinks in the armor or test the waters. Those things surface on their own, or don't.

That' ^^^sounds like you describing me..
Lol..WHAT!!.IT'S TRUE..LOL okay I have a few issues..but.. I'm no Trainwreck..
Lol..wink..Tom4Uhere.. very well said sir... there's a big difference between personal issues and emotional baggage..yup.. to be a well-rounded self-aware person you must always be moving forward.. dealing with your issues and problems as they come

I add,

Understanding and accepting that not all issues can be dealt with or dealt with immediately. The person with their chit together deals with what can be dealt with and accepts those that can't be dealt with. They are not consumed with worry and regret. Edit: They Adjust Accordingly.

I don't buy into that whole concept of better than because I don't see myself as better than and what I have found over the years is that all guys put their pants on one leg at a time so what ever their status .

If someone has their stuff together is when you happen to catch them. I have seen the rich and powerful brought to their knees by stuff doesn't faze others.
Online together is often a well crafted illusion.

If someone has their stuff together is when you happen to catch them. I have seen the rich and powerful brought to their knees by stuff doesn't faze others.
Online together is often a well crafted illusion.

hmmmmm I couldn't see why I wouldn't want someone like you either

It is unethical too. As long as you're happy being with that person and you don't step on other people's foot, that's all that matters

Very Well said.... and you can't buy real happiness either...can't even bring all your earthly treasures to the grave... Life is Unpredictable....Make the most of every moment...of every opportunity...of new encounters....of every person...for tomorrow will never be the same....Who Knows???