I see lots of ladies that want a message, not a match, how so i send them a message?

yeah.. well be careful with that. Those "Ladies" most likely are some guy sitting in a internet café in Nigeria

You just type what you want to say at the bottom of their profile. ( unless you do not fit into their filters. All so at the bottom of their profile.) and click send.

:laugh as green eyes said. They might not be what they seem.

Thanks for the response. I fully understand about the sick Puppies. I think what has surprised me the most is the number of "sweet young innocent " girls that want me. I guess that makes me one hell of a catch, huh?
Anyway, thanks again and have a great day in spite of everyone.

Jim

Read their profile.
Look at the pictures they share - note backround things of interest.

Write your messages as an introduction relating to the things they tell in their profile that have meaning to you.

Relate similar examples of their intrests that occur in your life too.

She writes, "I like Camping"
Tell her about your camping gear and where and how you also like camping.

She is wearing a pendant in every picture. Ask her if that penedant has special significance to her.

Your messages should be to try to find out if she is interested in the same things as you and if she wants to get to know you better based on those things you share with her.

If you like her, tell her.

Great advice. Make the connection thru the unspoken.

Thanks

An example:

In one of her pictures she is wearing a festive colorful shirt and looks very happy.

"I noticed in your second picture that you look very happy that day. What was happening that made you have such a vibrant, beautiful expression?"

"I see you are holding a souvenir cup. Where were you at that day? I collect those cups too, I have quite a collection from amusement parks and zoos that I have been to. What is your favorite?"

She has "walks on the beach" as a listed interest.

"Sometimes I head down to the beach late at night and walk in the surf barefoot. Its so calm and peaceful and the stars shine brilliantly. Want to take a walk sometime?"