I have been with a guy for 3 years and I am tired of him not working. He works paint jobs with his friends whom own there own companies. He is 53 and irresponsible. He is a charmer who says he adores me and loves me to pieces. Problem is I dont feel that way any longer. He always promises he will get a full-time job,but he sounds like a broken record. I told him that he needs to move out before December. I care about him. I just feel he must have some mental issues that prevent him keeping work. He is an awesome painter, He just dont help me financially at all. Bummed out. Everyone tells me I deserve better.

You do deserve better! Its hard and I have been there but its worth it in the end!

All I can say is that sometimes head over heart is the best way, no matter how much it hurts

men can be right buggers

wow 53 and doesnt work, seems like ur his sugamama


damn im 22 work full time and go to school and have car, bike, house and a shi* load of other bill.. can i take his place

Its up to you, but i say dump him! he needs to take care of you no matter what!

Thanks for the reply. He never wants to leave when I tell him to. He starts crying like he is a young child. He says we have 3 years. I tell him "of what". Theresa

Hit the road ya BuM! And don't let the door hit ya were the good Lord split ya.

Gurl, you know what you need to do...

My friend is going thru this. It was ok, when he was doting on her all the time & she could afford it.
It got old thou when the doting stop & he took the free ride for granit.
then she would go where he was staying to have sex...

you do deserve better, If he cares about you, he should be working with you on things and working to better himself.

I agree with you> TY

It really sucks. I feel he just uses me because I work,have home, cook for him, etc. He does do some things, I have given him deadlines. I just dont always stick to them. My fault! TY

From what you wrote he sounds like a manipulative user, leave him. JMO

Starts crying.. He think your his mama or what?

So in all this time that he's been off work does he make sure the house is clean, your laundry is done, your car is gassed & clean & have dinner ready when you would get home from work??
I see your off on med. leave so he should be doing even more.

He isnt a man.....he is a moocher!!! No wonder he is crying....he is losing his meal ticket!!! At his age he should have his sh*t together and be a grown up!!!

sorry didnt see your post.

If your paying he should be working for his keep.

by that I mean taking care of all that for you..

Ty Catchme, You know what you are talking about girl. There is so much more I want in life and he cant provide that for me. I really want to move on. I told him this. He says hes here to save me from the real world,,the onliners who lie about themselves...funny!

So Right Gypsy! TY

Ty Girlie, Im on the verge of dumping!!!

Show him the door.He is using up to much of your energy.They name streets after him=one way or dead end.Stick to your guns and be sure he is out by December.You may have an adjustment period but methinks a big sigh of relief will be exhaled by you.Good luck.

You might need to help him a little!!

Go Get boxes
(walmart will save a good assortment if you call & ask)
& Start packing up his crap!

He's only got 2 weeks..

Damn gurl, how did you make it in this Big Ol' Mean World before you got saved by prince charming!!!