Hey Mingle2, can you ask you a good question , okay is it possible to be in love with a person who works in the adult entertainment such as porn stars, strippers & exotic dancers? I was always told that them kind of girls you don't bring home to mom. I also realize it just a job to get where you really want to go. so America, lets talk about it, could you have a real marriage or relationship with a stripper ?

EyeAmYourHost39,

Well, I can't se me with a stripper, I don't have security to be able to separate her job and something she would want to do. Strange men throwing singles, lusting after her, she's moving her body seductively to make money, wow!, naw, I wouldn't be able to handle that.

You can fall in love with anybody, that is the American way.
For most strippers it is just a living.

If they happen to look like a gawd without clothes I could
live with it.

Perfect answer.

One person can (romantically) fall in love with any other person as long as the perception of the other person fulfills 2 (mostly subconscious) conditions.
1. A means to procreate.
2. A desire to attempt procreation.

"Love" is a tool, it has a purpose, a process the body/brain goes through in order to ensure two people stick to each other long enough to successfully pass on their genes; so the offspring can survive long enough to learn to perpetuate its own life and protect itself from predators.

Other than that, you can't consciously control who you fall in love with. You can't simply choose someone you have absolutely no attraction or desire for and say "I am going to fall in love with them. I am going to flip a switch in my head and feel attraction to them, and want them, I am going to flip the switch on phase 1 of the process, and when necessary then flip the switch to phase 2."

You can look at someone you have an immense physical and social attraction to and say "no, I am not going to pursue a relationship with them," and keep yourself away.

So, yes, "it is possible to be in love" with a stripper.


Not in their work uniforms.


That's what many people tell themselves to justify it. Ends justify means thinking.
No matter where you go, there you are. No matter what you do, it affects you and you affect it.


Not me personally. I don't respect the industry.
I also couldn't have a real marriage or relationship with a doctor, a lawyer, a truck driver, a deep sea oil platform worker, a "journalist," a politician, a police officer, and many other people in certain professions, for different reasons.

You are either your profession, defined by what you do, or you keep it separate from yourself which means you're the type that tries to compartmentalize your life and pursue things for what they can do for you.

So a stripper either embraces being a stripper, which is basically a tease and denial, commoditizing herself, which creates all sorts of emotional and mental problems, or they are going to be controlling and full of rationalizations and pursuing a relationship with me for selfish reasons, I'm a means to an end and only as secure as my means can provide better than the next guy.

SoufieHere,

Well I hear what you saying, the only way I would marry a woman in the adult industry because stripping is still in the adult industry, okay, she would either leave the business or me?

Ciretom,

Hey Buddy , well I understand your view. I guess I always thought if I was to make a home for a woman of the night, I would worry about STD's, Competition among us men wanting her, or even deal with crazy stalkers. But then I look back and say well, EyeAm, you not the type to judge. You always give folks the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she wants to leave, maybe she's doing that because she has a child & its no man to help her so unlike selling dope, stripping is her way out.

Hmmmm... I think I would want them to change their careers if they want me to make an honest woman out of them.. Im know pornstar but I can get the job done.. and I can put a stripper pole in the basement... and if she wants to dance for me at night I will keep a stack of stripper singles on the nightstand..lol

it could even be better if she brought all her stripper friends over to practice "on a pole"... i could live with it

My lil insecurities would not allow for me, to be able to fall in love with a exotic dancer/ stripper.

Fall in Lust, that's a different story...

GoofBall73,

I love the poster pic funny man will......keep posting.

NO1PHD,

Hey buddy , I wanted to take a small break with my controversy,, ah don't more heated ones coming next week. mean while I wanted to lighten the mood, So let me get this straight you won't mind being with a stripper? And you have singles for her.....lol. tell me more

Scoobert34,

Hey, well I feel the same way , I mean I come from the school of thought that the I would be the one will provide for her financially & the only one she seduces me with her snake dance.......lol

Im gonna speak from a little personal experience....

I am not a jealous guy. I do not play games and have been 100% honest in every relationship I've had. That being said I have dated 1 stripper and 2 "cam models". I dated the stripper for about 2 months and to be honest I didn't really care that stripping was her job. That may have been for a few reasons though. 1. I wasn't in love with her. She was a pretty great person but I know I was not in love. 2. I did not meet her at a strip club. I was at a Halloween party at a bar. Im a very shy guy but she actually had her friends come over to me and ask if I thought she was attractive and if I'd be willing to talk to her. I was flattered and we had a great night. 3. The club she worked at was strictly "hands off" and was only topless. I have 0 issue with strippers...my view was always "well if the guys aren't actually touching them and it isn't prostitution then I really don't see how its any different from anyone else making a living with their body (i.e. models, athletes, etc".

Now this might sound weird but where the jealousy really hit me was when I dated the cam models. Even though the men can NEVER touch them and usually will never even find out their real name/age/location...it becomes insanely hard to keep a clear head. The women is getting THOUSANDS of messages a day and acquires "fans" (usually older guys) that have vast amounts of money to send the woman hes into. I am not wealthy so I became pretty paranoid about the whole situation. The first camgirl I dated (I was about 24) was truly the love of my life. The 3 years I was with her were the best I ever had and despite being a very popular model, she made EVERY guy know she was taken and would not talk to them outside her chat room. I eventually proposed to her and she quit that job immediately despite making more in a month then I could in a year. Things were great for a while....but lets just say things ended badly and not because of her profession.

The second camgirl I dated (ugh...I never learn) brought up the same paranoia and jealousy, again though the relationship did not end due to her job. I ignored some of my hardline redflags and it just proved why I had them in the first place (To much of an age gap, she was very demanding and selfish, also had a child).

Anyway, to your original question... can you fall in love with a stripper? Absolutely. Though I think you will always have massive trust issues if you started your relationship by meeting her at her job and will inevitably lead to a bad end. If you trust her and shes open and honest about everything with you, well then its possible. If you are even remotely jealous it will most likely fail though.

Hope that helps! Feel free to ask me anything else if you wanna know something.

ofcourse. you cant control love. you can fall inlove with anyone u dont expect to .. when youre inlove you will her or him despite of any deformities she or he have or whatever job he or shes beeen doin.

Dusk86,

Hey buddy well you human I think we all have a little jealous bone as long as its not out of control. Well if you like that girl a lot maybe she could comprise and some good may come out it, if not well you live & learn right?

Micheko86,

Hey cutie, you right you can't control but can we control with standards? can we say look past the job or do we say ah ha....can't do it..?

Dodo_David,

love little Michelle from full house I had a crush on D.J. played by Candice Cameron...back in the day. I guess you can say she was the reason why my TGIF was date nighty with the show...lol