Yes, when will men learn that attentiveness during a date may just get them in the front door. Or at least a 2nd date!

Some of us already know this.and some will never know it.

Oh, and then there are the ones that want to spend the evening telling you everything they loved and hated about their ex, and then compare you to them...

Some of us already know this.and some will never know it.

lol, ok..as far as dating i haven't had enough practice in recent years to know what i would or should call someone i was dating regularly, when i was introducing them..i'd probably have to ask, lol...umm, as far as being single and over 40....i don't like it at all...its difficult to explain, but i feel like something's always missing, which it is...i don't feel complete, you know?..strange kind of feeling, like i could be doing something better, or at least, have a different perspective and outlook on things..

I got to agree with you. We are not children and pretty much know what we want, or at least a good idea of it. If I care about someone they have my complete attention, the rest of the world is just background noise. I always show respect to anyone I am with, even a first date. Just the way I was brought up, manners and decency you know. I've just fine tuned it with age. I still open the door for women and the like. Little old fashioned maybe, but it fits me very well and I will never change it.

Thank you. I just think its respectful, even in a normal social setting, and not a date. I should be paying attention to the person/people I'm dining with, not to the entire rest of the room.

No. We all just magically become friends.

I think a lot of us feel that way burgundy. Don't think you are alone in that respect. Just surround yourself with good friends, and when the time is right, you'll find the love you seek again.

That's called Southern Charm my friend. It seems a lot (not all) Northern men are lacking in that area.

I'm sure men and women both do that. I try hard not to bring the EX up unless asked about him.

This is not dictated by what latitude you are in in my opinion. I'm probably more North than most. Up here there are the good and bad also. Some guys only have one thing on their minds at all times and then there are us who are real. Would there be anything wrong with the light of my life or something along those lines. I must admit dating in your 40's is completely different than it was in my 20's. Maybe it's just me.

Interesting topic:) What I have heard most commonly used in introduction by ladies is 'this is my man' which leads to the assumption of my best friend'..lol Sounds reasonable in saying 'this is my girl' in reversed roles.

Gork, I agree that there are still gentlemen in the North and the South, East and West too I'm sure. I just find those with more southern upbringing are more gentlemanly. This would apply to those who were raised by parents from the South too. I'd be happy for a man to open my door for me, hold my coat to put it on, Keep me on the inside away from the street to keep me safe. I feel protected. If I'm hurting women's lib saying those things, so be it.

Good point, LA. I shall ask him. This will be our first social gathering of the season. His party is the fancy one. Dress up, dinner and dancing at an Uptown upscale hotel. Spending the night and everything!

My party will be interesting. All the phone brokers will get drunk and hug me and tell me how much they love me. Wonder how he will handle that one? LMAO.

More to follow. Going to go put my boy to bed!

Hugs, M

I was once introduced as " I'd like you to meet the man in my life"

I liked it , it made me feel proud I was a part of her life and she wanted them to know it. Hope this helps

As for the Southerner's, I cannot say. Up here we don't get many. Too cold maybe? I find a lot of people don't have very good manners anymore and the younger they are the more it is apparent. There is nothing wrong in expecting someone to have basic manners in my books. Be nice if everyone thought that way though. Sometimes you just want to throw in the towel, but I never loose my faith that some still do. Just have to weed out the bad and keep looking. I wish you the best of luck in finding your special someone. They're out there, I know they are. I'm kind of the eternal optimist. Gord

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Hate dates

Sleep alone

Oh well

funny you mentioned about the woman walking on the inside when going down a street with her guy...i would always make sure the woman was away from the street side when walking together...so when/if i had to jump around to get on the outside, i'd get the strangest looks from them...most of them never knew, so i had to explain it to them, lol...