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Topic: Stay? Or not?
kennybae Joined Wed 01/04/17 Posts: 1	Wed 01/04/17 04:37 PM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not?

maricella20 Joined Sun 08/17/14 Posts: 12	Wed 01/04/17 04:52 PM
Why would you? Maybe it depends on what you mean by 'doing his own thing'. Maybe, like myself he's independent, secure and non-jealous so doesn't feel the need to be attached to the hip. But on the other hand - if by 'doing his own thing' means he's out playing the field, then common sense would say Run for the Hills. Perhaps your question should be to yourself - "Why am I staying with someone who has so little regard for my feelings and emotional well being?

RustyKitty Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 1601	Wed 01/04/17 04:54 PM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not? Do not rely on someone else to make you happy... You should have your own life, aside from his.. go out with your friends without him.. be less available.. maybe he will see a new you.. Otherwise leave..

sybariticguy Joined Thu 09/27/12 Posts: 1639	Wed 01/04/17 04:58 PM
Sorry I find the question to vague to make any sensible response as much more elaboration is needed to have an understanding of what the issue actually is.....

Alexandwr Joined Wed 01/04/17 Posts: 7	Wed 01/04/17 05:09 PM
A part of being in relationship is also to respect the needs of personal space. I'd suggest to come up with a term and understanding though:)

scepticalsoulmate Joined Wed 08/24/16 Posts: 9737	Wed 01/04/17 07:57 PM
theres no point staying in an unhappy relationship unless being unhappy makes you complete?

Cheeriosoo Joined Sat 04/09/16 Posts: 584	Wed 01/04/17 08:17 PM
Hi Kenny, fellow New Englander, Patriots, Bradey sympathizer, this sound like a rhetorical observation, you can try to talk about it, if that does not work, time to fly away. Hope it help.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Wed 01/04/17 09:40 PM
depends on what you mean by 'his own thing' the two of you are not joined at the hip so to speak does he leave your bed to do things like oh I dunno...shower, get dressed and go to his job? Does he sometimes call other people like his brother or mom or golf buddy? did he have lunch with co-workers? have a guys poker night?

SimpyComplicated Joined Sat 12/28/13 Posts: 1107	Wed 01/04/17 10:50 PM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not? Are you in love with cray cray or him?

Trident74 Joined Wed 01/04/17 Posts: 5	Wed 01/04/17 11:29 PM
theres no point staying in an unhappy relationship unless being unhappy makes you complete? I like that

IgorFrankensteen Joined Thu 10/01/09 Posts: 5444	Thu 01/05/17 05:00 AM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not? Are you in love with cray cray or him? SimplyComplication has it right. It isn't love, if you feel attached to the other person in spite of them being NOTHING like what you wish they were. It's usually that you are in lobe with the idea of being in love, and you put that person's face on your self-indulgence. Some introspection is in order. Figure out what, if anything, you actually LIKE about this person, and you will come to see that you don't actually love THEM, at all.

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Thu 01/05/17 05:55 AM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not? Maybe. Have I tried being a part of their "own thing?" Are they actively trying to keep me from it? Am I sitting there waiting for/expecting them to come chase me down and drag me into their life kicking and screaming wanting them to to be happy about having to do that, holding them completely responsible for me feeling a connection?

greeneyes148 Joined Fri 12/25/15 Posts: 5830	Thu 01/05/17 06:10 AM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not? I say kick his lame a** out.

krissy55101 Joined Thu 12/01/16 Posts: 1163	Thu 01/05/17 07:40 AM
When you wanted to stay coz you are inlove yet you see him doing his own thing. Making you feel not part of his life and it makes you unhappy. Would you still stay or not? Just walk away. You are wasting your life if you stay in a relationship where you are not happy.

peppermint10 Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 147	Thu 01/05/17 04:45 PM
Don't make someone a priority in your life when you're only an option in theirs. Best advice I ever heard.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Thu 01/05/17 04:47 PM
well done peppermint also, do not suffocate one by making them 'everything' in your life truly, the best thing to do is discuss it with that person, and find out from them if your intentions and priorities match,, good luck

TipsyTip Joined Fri 12/30/16 Posts: 4	Fri 01/06/17 10:11 PM Edited by TipsyTip on Fri 01/06/17 10:12 PM
Ehrm is he cheating? is he ball huggin others? is he out with em uhm uhms all night? if not what r u complaining bout? just cause we are in a relationship doesnt mean i cant have time to myself or to do my own thing which makes me happy... ey as long as he aint violating stop tripping...