Have you ever noticed that often times you see a man online and think "Oh wow, he's just what I'm looking for", he is in a relationship?

I've heard an expert say that the reason we find those people appealing is that they exude a 'happy relationship' vibe, that vibe every single person is looking for.
Those appealing people are not desperately looking for someone, they're happy with where they are -even if they are looking for someone on the side- so they have this good feeling about them and a sparkle in their eyes.

I've recently noticed it really works that way:
Ever since I stated in my profile that I've met someone and am here for forums only, my mailbox is overflowing.
I got quite a lot of attention beforehand, but now everybody wants me. I feel incredibly flattered. Really, I do! It's just a lot of work to delete all them messages all the time

So I was about to say "THE way to finding a partner and/or getting dates is to state that you've met someone."
Unfortunately I don't think it will quite work out that way without the energetic "happy relationship" vibe.
Rendering my advice rather useless... Oh well... at least I tried!

Odd thing is though, that even the content of the PMs I get now is different?
First it was along the lines of "Hi, I like your smile, you're beautiful bladiblabla" The usual stuff, seldom anything that stood out.
Now I suddenly get rather sweet and almost poetic messages.

Anyone else who's met someone and says so in their profile text notice this 'phenomenon'?

In general, when a person is in love they are perceived as more confident, desirable, and exude an aura that also has a sexual and physical attraction not found when loves chemistry is absent . In a heightened emotional state a person is felt to be positive, energetic, sexually expressive and emotionally viable. Also when one is involved with another, the persons defenses are down, their spirits and energy are more easily expressed and their overall personal aura is amplified, I have also seen this in pregnant women who literally beam with joy a radiance and affect that is truly physical, spiritual, emotional and sexual as the woman glows with such intensity its difficult not to experience. Conventional wisdom also suggests that when a person is in love their focus is external and as such the person is perceived as more successful, outgoing, energetic, passionate and socially viable. Perhaps the body chemistry is also felt as people in love, have a varying chemical presence that others can often experience Also when someone is taken it allows the other to desire with the safety of knowing that there is not a risk so the observer can feel free to have the attraction without fear of rejection or negative feelings in risking ones self regarding the viability of another... We sometimes want what we cant have ... it serves the luxury of having some feelings without risk or consequences.....

Thank you for your addition :) Exactly what I meant, and somehow it works that way online just the same, even when you're using a picture that was taken before you fell in love. So it's more than just the picture, it really is exuding another vibe.
(my picture is close to 2 yrs old, so from way before falling in love)

crystal following this advice then ... i am so in love love love with HIM