why is it so hard to find someone

It all depends on who you are looking for.

Good luck.

You need to make yourself attractive to the type of person you are looking for.
If it's a woman you are looking for they generally want
1. You to look presentable - work out to get rid of the tummy, get your hair cut professionally, wear clothes with style.
2. A sense of humour - if you are on here, chances are you have had a **** time either not finding the person you are looking for or having found them realised it was all a mistake. Put all that behind you and get with a new you. Find your sense of humour.
3. Someone who cares about them. Try to get the topic of conversation off you and your problems. Be the gentleman you know you are.
4. Someone who can look after them. Be careful with your funds but make sure you're there when the bill comes.
5. Someone they can trust. If they are on here then see 2 above. They need to know you are not like the bastard they have just left. Never lie (you know women are much better at non-verbal communication and can spot a lie a mile away) and don't over exaggerate. Demonstrate that you are trustworthy. If they say 9:15 be there at 9:15.
6. They don't want a stalker. If you find someone who expresses interest give them space too.

Hope this helps.

It isn't, but most don't realise they first have to love themselves, and are looking for someone else to shine their love-light on them to feel better. That doesn't work.
Most feel miserable, then attract someone who feels the same way, and make each other even more miserable.

Love yourself, feel love for everything and everyone, then you will find someone.

I think it's hard to find someone you can really connect with and find long term potential.

In my humble opinion, it isn't so much about how you look or even if you are nice, etc ---- it's how easily you are attracted to others.

For example: I do not care much for sports, but most men are very much into sports. This means, my pool of choices is smaller.

I could accept the fact that they'll spend 90% of their free time watching sports .. but I've been there and done that - and I wasn't happy. I would rather be single. :)

I could accept being with someone who is nice but I don't feel any spark. But... that's not really fair to the other person - so I would rather stay single.

It's hard --- for some of us --- not so much for others. Why? I don't really know.

There is no such thing that called love

Hmm.. I don't think you find love.. love finds you...yup..

it'll come in the very least expected ways...yes,it happens.

its not. i get hit on by hot sexy *** chicks every day.