It seems like dating has changed allot over the years and I'm just wondering where everyone stands. Cuddle with a movie or go out?

Well like every thing else... It Depends.


Depends on who I am cuddling with

Depends on the movie

Depends on what the "going out" offer is, and with who



See it depends....

That should be expected if that man is in it for the long haul and not a one nighter.. Good for you

you are right.. So not a first date thing but after you have been together for awhile type thing

Still depends. And I know for Me I am not cuddling ANY man on a first date ...

I think stay home and cuddle is a nice thing to do sometimes. Sitka is right, lol, it depends

If in a serious relationship i think I would like to cuddle and do a movie regularly and spend time together. Now days life moves so fast that people forget one another..Especially with me and owning a large company. Gets crazy

Yep, agree - once you are serious and close to someone - taking some time out to relax, watch a movie and cuddle is a great idea.

Nothing in this world should be expected. Lol. The little things get missed that way.
In a serious relationship going out is nice and yet there is something to be said for...
Brewing that pot of tea sharing it with that someone special closing out the day.. blocking everything and everyone else out. Just you and that special someone.. sigh

Awwwwww Thats sweet

Amen to that

netflix and a hot cocoa near a working fireplace would be perfect

A balance of both for me.

On a first date not the movie and cuddling. Too much for a first date.

As for the rest, variety is key. And of course it depends on the mood of both parties. Sometimes it's wonderful to cuddle up and just be, enjoy being together, even when not talking.

But movie and cuddling only when you have gotten to know each other a bit better. I think when the girl is comfortable about taking the guy home -or going to his place- you could suggest the movie and cuddling.

I've never cuddled with a movie. Sounds unsatisfying.

depends on the day and my mood

IMO not really.
IMO it's starting to never go past the high school stage.

I mean

Lots of people do that on a first date.
Lots of "netflix and chill" hookups on mobile phone dating apps.

Some girls I knew in high school used to sneak out on a school night, climb out the window, go meet a guy parked around the corner, they'd sit and make out, or "watch the stars," or go hang out with friends and watch a movie under a blanket.

I knew a woman that online dated regularly. At one point she went to meet a guy at his place, cut through neighbors yards, climbed his back wall, snuck through a window, all to try and be quiet so as not to wake his kids.
She thought it was fun and not boring like past dates and he seemed like a great guy online.


IMO dating hasn't changed.
IMO people are stunted in their dating ability.
Approaching it like kids.
You've got the "I just read Yeats and have figured everything out, I know what I want and how it should all go and how I'm supposed to feel, and you have to make me feel that way or you're doing it wrong."

You've got the "No players! I'm no slut! Ooops, one night stand. Ooops, one night stand, gotta stop doing that. Ooops, he said the right things but disappeared after sex. Where are the good ones?! Guys are the problem! I cook for a man, clean for a man, climb his back wall at 1 in the morning, but what do I get?!"

You've got the "I'm a rebel. I'm just going to be a btch or a dck and ejaculate whatever is on my mind and think that makes me an adult. I'm going to approach this absolutely objectively and turn off my emotions when convenient and attack you with them when that is in my best interest because I have no idea how to control them."

You've got the "it's all relative. I'm too scared of making a commitment or decision I might have to be responsible for. So I'm going to be in my shell poking out saying 'it depends' all the time until you say something I feel safe agreeing to or using to justify what I really want which you'll never know because I will never tell you, you have to drag everything out of me, if you drag it out of me then you're responsible for it, not me."

Just kid crap.

Dating hasn't changed.
People haven't changed.
High school was probably the last time they actually dated and got relevant feedback from friends and family regarding how they were going about it.
People don't learn or grow or change without quality social feedback.
Online doesn't provide it, and there's a bigger push for people to be "independent" and figure it out by themselves.

Well said - if you start expecting /and or taking things for granted - it will have a negative effect on the relationship.

I just tbought, as you said - and others did -- as much fun as it can be to go out, it's also nice to stay in alone and together... It depends

If I like someone, I'm good staying in. I like to be home. I like to go out too. I'd get really bored staying home all the time.

friday night.........dinner and a concert or club
saturday night.....movie and spoon on the couch