I am 20 and fall in love with 51 year old. I am happy that i met him. the problem is.. is he serious to me?

That's a question you really have to answer for yourself. And if you really are asking that question then I wish you the best of luck. Actions speak louder than words. What does he do make you second guess his seriousness? Honestly, ur 20. You haven't lived yet. My ex-wife was only 4 years younger than me. That was a huge difference between us, so I cant imagine what 30 years would be like. But I was serious and she wasn't. It really depends on the person. That's why I said you really have to ask yourself that question

he has a big trust issues.. we both feel the same way. i know there is something wrong with that.. i dont know how to cope with his issues.

I don't think his trust issue is gonna go away. You're pretty and young. He's always gonna think you're off somewhere doing something with someone ur age. I trusted my ex, but I didn't trust other guys

ALL OF THIS IS SURFACE NOISE,,,,,THE REAL QUESTION IS WHY ARE YOU IN A

RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS?????..SOME BELIEF ABOUT YOURSELF OR OTHERS AND OR ARE YOU

RECYCLING FAVORITE FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS....??????. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN FIX

IS YOURSELF AND YOUR ISSUES.....IF ALL THE ISSUES JUST WENT AWAY,NOW WHAT WOULD

YOU HAVE...????????...CHILL SPEND YOUR TIME NOW AT LEAST FOR A WHILE LEARNING

ABOUT YOURSELF...YOUR YOUNG WITH LOTS OF TIME......DRAMA CAN MAKE US FEEL ALIVE

AND IT CAN CAUSE A LOT OF HARM TO US AND OTHERS.....

He's found a beautiful, young woman, who loves him, of course he's serious, but that doesn't mean it's healthy. You've already alluded to "trust issues."

"I know there's something wrong with that." Then get out now and fix yourself, because at 51 years old, HE's not likely to change.

And, don't be surprised if he becomes a stalker after you break it off. Change your phone number.

At any age there can be trust issues and its very hard to change that. I agree with another poster that he might be insecure because of the age difference.

I was married for many years, we were the same age and both of us had trust issues that never went away. I know now that my fears were imaginary....we were both insecure.

marriage is the solution

marriage is the solution

A stalker? Lol because of his age?

(You ARE kidding, right?)

I think hes kidding

No, because insecure people do weird things when you break up with them. That really has nothing to do with age.

I would guess, and that's all I can do - since I don't know you or him.

He is afraid you will dump him for a younger man - the only question is when.

Best way to cope with it for s just to relax and trust one another. Trust till you prove them wrong! Trust is a huge factor in any relationship if you don't have it why bother. If you love him and he loves you go for it! I have the issue at my age finding someone that don't look like my mother so I date younger girls.

He may be trading up for a 18 year old.

Their is no difference between the age things(age is nothing but a number. Alliyah) the most important thing is the love,and love means sacrifice. I think he is afraid of u dumping him one day,because might find the younger guys more attractive one day(near future) just give him the trust of no going back,and you will see him in another mood

Do keep this in mind: many older men will do and say ANYTHING to continue to have sex with a much, much younger woman, for their ego.

at first tell me where r u from?

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