I am trying to get back into the dating scene and am having problems with selecting the right woman. I have been seperated for 1yr and officially divorced for 4 months. The divorce was caused by infidelity on her part. I caught her twice and had had enough. I want friendship first as friendhip and communication is the most important part of a relationship. I have met a woman here that i like and dont want to ruin the friendship that we have. How do i know if she likes me and is ready to meet me for coffee. Signed: Seeking a good hearted & loyal woman

I would say, just ask for having a drink together, a no you have, a yes you can get. If she feel offended by asking for a drink I would runaway

Papi you are right about how dating goes these days compared to what it was 20 yrs ago.......so much different, not too mention more stressful.

AS for asking your friend for going out for coffee...just come right out and ask her if she would like to meet you sometime for coffee or a drink.

a lot has changed in 20 years, dear man...
and the dating scene is part of it...
I'm sure it must be especially
crazy for a a new comer



well, hang in there

it gets better

Dating isn't what it will be in twenty years from now either

Ouch, don't even want to think what dating will be like in 20 years. Sure hope I don't have to deal with it then. Maybe I will be a cat lady by then if I am still single?

Back to regularly scheduled programming....

Papi, if you are comfortable enough asking...go for it. Ask her out for something simple (coffee, drink, etc) with no pressure. Worst that can happen is that she will say no.

Let us know what happens!

(Beverage of your choice) M

If you are ready, then by all means go for it! Ask her out and have a great time!

Dating circumstances may have changed, but basic human emotions, want, and needs haven't. Good luck to you!

Is this day and age I have found there is a lack of honour and honesty. This is turn makes people suspicious of each other intentions...I remember in the good old days my father would have had a heart to heart chat with my Beau and asked him out right " what are your intentions towards my daughter?"

Most men I know today wouldn't have shown up to meet my father let alone give a satisfactory answer.

And like I have said over and over and over again, I don't think the Internet is the right place to start a relationship...Its just too easy for people to play games and just hit the block button instead of trying to address issues...face to face...I mean if you had a disagreement with a family member or a friend or a work colleague even, would you from now on in just slam the door in their face? without saying another word?...Really?

And and don't get me on the subject of Cyber Sex... The people who partake in that pleasure either have no respect for the opposite sex or one has no respect in themselves or both...I know of a woman in real life who does this sort of thing...OMG if the guys could see who they are actually talking to they would run a mile...believe me

You're doing it! Get into the fray and see what comes next!! Have fun

Do whatever you did 20 years ago!
People think it's a lot harder to survive in the dating world today because we men have lost sight of how to be ourselves and what's attractive to women due to increasing repression of masculinity.
DO WHAT YOU DID 20 YEARS AGO!!!