just wondering if anyone is kinda having the same trouble as myself, well basically I split from my ex about 10 year ago, first 3 years were tough because we had a daughter 18 now... well I loved & love being a dad, cut a long story short, I'm finding it hard to start a new relationship...

I've been divorced since November 2013. My ex husband and I have two children. The kids live with me, I have a 16 year old and 8 year old. I too am finding it hard starting a new relationship. The dating pool seems to be very shallow in my area.

Like you, I was also married almost 10 years.
Before that it seemed so natural to meet women but now it feels like getting out of prison and having to reintegrate into society again.
Very surreal.

Similar to a drug user who tries quitting
their addiction. It leaves a big gaping whole behind, which i think
might be best field by proactively throwing yourself into a bunch of
situations you've never done before. Join groups, travel, explore,
climb mountains, take up new hobbies.

Replacing that whole with something new and exciting.
I haven't totally succeeded at doing this yet, though it seems to make a difference.

Maybe you should try joining some of these "bored mom groups",
or children charities/functions like boyscout/girlscout events.
There's an epidemic of single moms, and it
would make having a child from a liability into an asset.

Yes it's absolutely terrifying. Don't have a clue with this modern dating lark

sure I understand ... after thirty years with the same person...
and having one child ... I love dearly and seems to make my day :>)
and he had someone already to move in wks after ... just thought to myself wow I should have looked for someone else too ... at the same time ... but I did not know ... even after seeing my x with someone else I still felt married ... that was weird ... now I feel at this point looking back after... I could have been in a nice relationship with someone ... and a very nice guy ... but I felt at the time did not want to hurt him ... I was not ready to jump back into a relationship with anyone ... and I have not found the right person for myself ... I know now I need someone that will love me in the best of times and the worst of times... meaning my moods... but I would not give up hope... you may have not found the right person for you yet either... and being older we tend to think about that more... what we may want in a relationship ...

If you want to start a new relationship, then here is a tip:
Do not use the number 69 in any username of yours.
Doing so is a red flag to plenty of women.

Unfortunately for you, you can't just change your username here.
In order to have a new username, you have to have a new account using a different e-mail address.

hahaha, only use "69" if you have really big abs and a NICE CAR !

That is very hard, people are not getting well with most of this things lately, i have divorced my wife for a year and some months and i have been finding it hard to get back n the track.

Its far different now, new rule now.

Actually No When I was first singe back when the kids were small I took 12 years off from doing anything but very casual dating. Usually in a group of friends. I wasn't ready and I knew it and I had kids to take care, finishing a degree then building a career. There wasn't time for a man

I am known to take a few months or at least a year off in between long relationships. I want time to heal and move into the next one.

I know for me I have the best relationship when I am not looking for it. Somehow it comes out and Gobsmacks me before I know it.

..well... trying to enter the dating world when you have kids.. is hard..
You're always trying to keep some type of relationship with your ex for the sake of the children... which makes it feel like you have a pseudo-relationship going.. with your ex still..
.. so you are never really truly free of your last relationship.... which brings a whole set of complications on itself....
.. entering the dating world without children.. seems like it would be a lot easier.... but the upside is you are never truly alone..lol.. kids keep you occupied.... great little cock blockers..
Lol... but really hard to start a new life with someone that doesn't have kids..
Our kids are older and left the Home already.... and then there's always the burning question of how do you meet somebody ?where do you meet somebody..?.. and if I do meet somebody what am I going to wear on a first date..lol.. and will I have to put out..,.lol..hmmm.. only if they buy me an expensive dinner I guess..ohhh.. do I dare dream somebody else cooking a dinner for me..lol..ohhh.. and no dishes to do either..lol..hmmm. I suppose that is worth putting out..for...lol

Well I've got no kids but it's still very hard. 25 years since I was last on the look out for that elusive thing called love. Everything seems so different. I'd like to do it the old-fashioned way - you know go out to the pub with some mates and catch a guy's eye across the room. But all my friends are married and rarely go out.

Maybe I should take up a new hobby and go to a class. Maybe pottery?? I could fantasise about a gorgeous hunky man coming up behind me at the pottery wheel as in 'Ghost'

Sometimes its scarey because other guy take advantages and dont care if u are hurt