Yes definitely and awkward too. Especially on these dating sites reading profiles looking at pics it's like car shopping lol

good point

Me as well, I think date sites is more like the work place for scammers !!! If I read " I will like to know you" one more time I'm going to scream !!

Well you know...Brad IS on the market again...

Once you resolved to not date you effectively eliminated any chance of meeting and this is sad, though for you seems the easier way to deal with dating issues.Perhaps a chat with a counselor may help you acquire some attitude and behavioral changes that make the process of dating less punitive and more fun.. Its your call but at your age seems quite premature.

Heck yeah! And, God forbid, if it ever isn't....there's always the little blue pill!

@ blue pill





Dating has always been difficult for me. I'm a bit shy, and I don't like to rush into anything.

The good part about dating now vs. when I was 19 is - I don't care what other people think about me, as much as I did back then. I can brush off rejection better now, and move on more quickly when a potential love interest doesn't work out.

The bad part .. there are simply a lot less people to choose from at this age. Not all, but a lot of men my age prefer to date younger women. I'm just average looking, and I have two kids living at home - not the greatest "bait".

Sex --- I think most of us still like it, but it can't be the only thing going, or the first thing you explore together - in my humble opinion.

I've been lucky, most men are persistent, but gentlemen when I tell them I am not ready to go there. I did download some app about a week ago, and got a lot of offers to see the "prize" ... but luckily, I didn't have to accept them - and they didn't download automatically --- like they would if you had already exchanged phone numbers and were texting. I deleted the app after my picture kept getting MILF comments. Obviously, a younger crowd.



I sure did ramble on ...

Good advice. And nowadays you never know if a jealous husband might have a gnu handy. Could wind up deadly.

Hey, just wanted to say, your right about the dating. Im 56 was married 30 years and I'm trying to date. Its horrible. Most men on these sites don't want a relationship they just lie to get what they want and they are young to the old. I get lonely and just look and comment but, meeting is a different story and it's sad....

I'm 55 yo, and still get as nervous as when I was a teenager when talking to a lady or asking one out. Rejection still stings the same or worse, and with hundreds of rejections it should be like water off a duck's back, but it isn't. Nothing about dating is any easier with age. In fact I thing things are worse, because I ask more women that are out of my league, out of desperation thinking eventually one will say yes, but they never never do. I self destructively even ask out pretty young things just to see the revulsion and disgust and confusion in their expressions afterward. But if I stop trying for real, I might as well end it all, when all hope of a happy life is gone. Not going to do that though; I'll continue to try to find a real companion no matter what.
Some say to not try, or not look, and then love will come to you - utter B.S.
No one will see or meet you if you just stay at home, which is much easier to do when older.

30 years of marriage and being with one man. And now I'm alone and I have yet to find a date. After chatting with many guys to find out they love to put out there feelings of having someone but, they lie and either they just want money or dirty talk. Im 56 years old and I feel that's a big game. And there are so many playing! Wtf! And they are close to my age! I guess it's an one line thing! Really sucks. Where can you meet decent people in the country. No where to go! Except

They can't even be honest about there picture. I put myself out there truefully but, you don't get that back!!!! Not right!

I think this site is not very good, I write to a few women and never get a reply. I see so many profiles with nothing on them but phony pictures or ladies showing their boobs. I'd like to at least meet one lady.

Its difficult but I don't belive it is impossible. That is why I am here and at other dating sites.

One thing that dating sites offers over real life, in the flesh, searching is that you can find someone that is closer to what you desire.

Dating sites have profiles that allow you to judge if that person is right for you. In real life, unless you already know them or are introduced to them by someone you trust, you have no idea what you are getting into. With age, comes wisdom.

One of the things that I have found with dating sites is that some people lie in their profiles too. That is why I find the forums so useful. It allows me to see the person interact according to their nature. I've been in short relationships with women I have found on dating sites. Short because so far, in every case, they have lied about something. Lying is a no-no with me. Don't need it, don't want it and won't put up with it. I am careful now from those experiences.

It might take some time but I do believe it is possible.

Certainly not impossible, I've had two relationships in the last couple of years thanks to dating sites. One ended mutually and we're still good friends, the other, not quite so mutual, when I received an email on Christmas eve !!!
I perhaps naively assume that the profiles are true and experience has thus far borne this out, the problem is that people only write the good things about themselves, nobody lists practicing alcoholic in their hobbies for example.
I don't personally see the point in being untruthful, it's usually obvious the first time you meet somebody. First thing I look at, the photograph (ok I admit to being just a bit shallow), the second thing the profile, the description of the person and not just a list of hobbies. A profile that just says 'Hi' and I generally move on, a description that strikes a note and I'll probably ignore the photo.

Next step, update my photo and re-write my profile I guess :-)

It is a little like a supermarket though and for me being a little reserved and finding it difficult to approach somebody that's not a bad thing, certainly as a painfully shy younger man it's a lot easier nowadays.

I have to disagree with the shallow suggestion.

Even in real life how someone looks is vital to the selection process. I pass right by photos and people that I do not find attractive. I am not going to have a very good relationship of any kind with someone I can't bear to look at.
Granted it is not the only thing I consider but it is a major factor. Its not shallow because it IS a normal selection process. Anyone that tells you otherwise is either lying to you or deluded.

The person that thinks it is shallow most likely has personal self-esteem issues they are trying to justify.