from grade school to secondary school I attended an exclusive all girls school run by the priests and nuns
..believe it or not...I've learned all these when I reached college.all due to the course I took up then(field of medicine).
it was a mixture of culture shock,excitement and feeling of experimentation then,huh!
haha!

but seriously,I need to remaster this art once again.it's been years.
and am willing even to take doctorate if possible!haha!...

I think a religious background makes it worse. I was in a religion and had it drummed into me no sex before marriage, no 'heavy petting' no this no that!!! By 14 years old I was obsessed with sex and they had to fit me with a chastity belt practically. All I can say it was a good job I was more scared of my mother's wrath than God's

And I don't think you ever stop learning. New partners bring new ideas and a new perspective I would imagine

Better with love though - nothing beats the chemistry

I think that's how it's went and still goes for many Americans cos religion is still so strong over there.
When I was ready for intimacy with my first BF, I went to the GP's for birth-control. Couldn't work out when to start taking them though, my sister wasn't sure either, so I then asked my mom. She explained and it was sorted.

With my own daughter it sort of went the same. She asked me when she should start taking birth-control.
My answer: "When you are ready."
She said she was ready, so I got her on birth-control asap.

In my view, if someone wants to have sex, they will have sex. Whether mommy-dearest or god says they shouldn't or not.
My kids's safety and "NO BABIES!" was more important than anything else to me.
Then I also don't believe in "no sex before marriage". Personally think that is advice that doesn't do anyone any good. The only way to tell what flavour you like and need in order to be fulfilled is by trying a few.

religion and conservative background plays the biggest part of my perspective in sex.

completely a late bloomer and too naive in this department then.
but in a way am too glad having this kind of upbringing.

I have strong reservations when it comes to practicing sex.
meaning,I don't venture into intimacy unless am in a solid relationship.no one night stand and no flings.

it has to be done when there's love involve..period!!

I agree CrystalFairy

That no sex before marriage really hindered my 20's

Calista29 I also agree with everything you said - I often felt angry at being restricted but I'm also glad I had morals. Trouble is you can often make foolish mistakes when you break out into the world like a sheep among wolves.

And the love bit - yes please. No flings for me neither.

oh yes,with that 'golden'morals as well,hay!

You don't need religion nor a conservative background/upbringing for that at all.
Us Dutchies are usually totally different, doesn't mean no one has any morals or values in life. It means you become responsible yourself and learn to make responsible decisions, both healthy attributes in life.
It also means you have far less chance of getting external hangups and restrictions that hold you back later on. Like not being able to enjoy physical pleasure and intimacy, no inner voice screaming you're wrong, guilty blablabla.
Apart from that, you at least have the space and freedom to experience, which is also beneficial later on in a relationship. I think many ppl who have never had another sex partner than their partner come to think "What would it be like?" Probably in late 20s or 30s. If you've had the freedom to 'taste' different flavours before getting in a steady relationship, you won't have that so easily, because you know.
Probably also the reason why biggest porn sales is in religious areas ... Proof to me that all this sexual restriction doesn't work. At all.
Teenage years are also meant to experiment with how you want relationships to be, to find out what works for you and what doesn't. Still doesn't mean that everyone who can have sex will also have sex or with everyone.
That's the problem with overly religious people, they tend to think in extremes ... It's either black or it's white. Like thinking or holding the conviction that ppl who do have freedom of choice basically have wild sex with everyone they meet or like. Real life is not like that at all.
No disrespect, just a bit of a different insight.

I had an idea... from an early age but didn't really learn til I got married...
I hope I am still learning

could learning over the phone or chat be in line with our fast paced times now? i can see technology would soon take over lol

in high school we had one health class with the girls and guys and the gym teacher would show us the body parts, then a movie with a film projector,the teacher left the class because he was not comfortable,well you can imagine the movie was played forward and back wards for 45 minutes i can tell you this it was very loud and comical in that class it was like a riot broke out in class.