I had taken time out this morning after working12hr shift to travel nearly an hour away just so I can finally meet this woman I had recently become friends with through a dating app. We talk eat and eventually get into lip action. Everything is great and then we leave heading our separate ways. Later in the evening she says that she had given it thought through the day and doesn't feel a connection. So I am confused... Is this a normal thing for women?

It's a normal thing for PEOPLE.

Haven't you gotten your hopes up for anything before based on what you THOUGHT it would mean to you, based on how it looked, and what you hoped/imagined you could do with it? And then in the event, you learned that it really wasn't "all that" after all?

That's why people date. To find out if that "look" really means what you hope it means, or if you or they are just fooling yourselves.

And your title doesn't match your story, in my opinion. The lady in question wasn't 'wishy washy" at all: she realized after one lip-lock session that this wasn't to be, and she let you know directly and quickly.

That aint "wishy washy" in my lexicon.

It was one date and one kiss. What are you expecting? Not always a connection.

Were you interested in her?
The reason I ask is, were I walking in your shoes, I would
take this golden opportunity to send her a simple email,
something like:

Dear HotLips: (I mean, insert her name here)

It was wonderful to meet you. I do not think
I expected much either on a first encounter.

Thank you for the sweet kiss.

StudMuffin (I mean, insert your name here.)

See, it will leave her wondering..what does he
mean 'he did not expect much either'??? It might
be enough to drive her crazy..and get back to you.
Then you are on your own.

(Courtesy of OneBriefMomentInsideAWomansHead)

That's a very nice counter strike message Soufie a food for thought to the girl

You can do what Soufie had advised Jaiceon

But on the other hand, you shouldn't feel bad if the girl was honest enough to admit to you that she didn't feel a connection. It's better to know it earlier than later , so you will not waste each other's time. Don't expect too much from one date, remember that dating is only a period of getting to know each other, feeling the connection if there is, it may lead to friendship , deeper relationship or nothing at all. If you think she's worth your time, it's up to you to take a step further and continue to take your chance on her. But don't expect again. Don't feel defeated or insulted, she is entitled to her feelings and you have to respect her decision. Move on and go on searching.....find your luck again

It was actually a lot of lip locking that got heated. And I say wishy washy because in one moment things are great and then later her mind changes. And sure it's great to know up front what her intentions are but to go from one moment like that to near rejection is hard to swallow. It's not like we talked in between those times... I was sleep all day until I left for work tonight and then found out. So for me it's like she can't make up her mind and wishy washy

I could have done that but I didn't want to waste anymore time or energy discussing it when it's a dead horse between us. I only ask here because I want to get another point of view.