What is it with guys who like buying stuff for girls?
As in "spoiling" when they're just starting to date.
It's weird how generous they try to be.
Are they trying to buy me?
Is it a sexual thing?
(Because I've known guys who get off on being forced to buy things for women.)
It baffles me.
Isn't dating about things you can't buy in life?
Mayhaps I should clue them in.

Hola Como Estas?

Yes. Some men feel the need to spend money on a girl for obligation sex.

I had a girl "friend" tell me that a guy spent about two hundred dollars on her on the first date and she felt obligated to have sex with him. And she did.

I just shook my head and said, "you slut!"

I meant it but she thought I was joking.

So, it does work.

Ummm You dont' have to accept the gifts or when he asks would you like to go to.. instead mention someplace else there is lots of great entertainment in the Salem area or Portland for that matter that doesn't cost an arm and leg.

Me personally wouldn't matter how much he spent on me I am not sleeping with them til committed relationship and STD testing done...

My mom taught me as a teen to never accept expensive gives from a man unless we were in a committed relationship ,because in her words, "Those gifts are NEVER free."

For better or worse, I have held on to that, and what I have noticed since, is that alot of guys after a break up will talk about all the gifts they gave to their ex, making me think like they made a mental bill of every present and favor they ever rendered, and nothing about what the girl gave back..

No thanks. That doesnt sound like love to me . I cant be bought.

What do you do when you're happy to see a guy?
Do you smile? Hug them? Tell them how indelibly happy he makes you?
Do you tell him a joke? Do you want him to be happy and feel good and like seeing you? Associating pleasant things with you?

Some guys grow their hair long and play guitar and write you songs, some guys write poetry, some guys try to touch you in simple ways (hand holding, brushing your hair back), some guys try to buy you stuff.


To some degree.
But no more than the person that decided to bring you a cup of coffee in the morning because they thought of you, or brought in a box of donuts to work for everyone including you, or said they'd cover your shift at work one night when you needed it.

Different guys will have different expectations of reciprocity.
Some will buy you an emerald pendant and only expect a smile and thank you, some will run an extra copy for you off the machine and expect you to go out with him.


If a guy talks to you and he's happy, it's a sexual thing to some degree.


No.
It's about communicating who you are and what you want.
All behavior is communication.
The deeper and stronger the feeling, the less direct communication (what comes out of the mouth) is used.
Of course some people try to use behavior and indirect communication to give you the impression of deeper feeling that doesn't exist.

Bien, y tu?
Oh right.
I totally forgot about that sort of exchange.
Psh.
They can't afford my vag.

Have encountered two guys like that.
The first one was not trying to buy me. His family's just wealthy and he's generous to his friends and other people too.
The second one was after something.

Hi Kris! So, are you saying it would work?

Cause I have the

Yeah.
I've yet to accept anything from a guy.
It's just been weirding me out.
Eventually they'll give up, I suppose.

Ha.
Your mom's a smart lady.
Some guys must look at it as investments.

Get an erection.
No to the rest.

The first one was giving me stuff except money. The second one gave me money.
The former became my boyfriend, the latter no. lol
So just put that money back in the bank

When you are first dating I think its inappropriate and looks kind of preplanned but when you are in a relationship there is nothing wrong with buying things or spoiling your girl.

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BY JOHN GRAY...OR ''THINK LIKE A MAN ACT LIKE A WOMAN BY STEVE

HARVEY'' ....OR SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS....

Nice to see such a beautiful woman who is a cheap date to boot!

?Well, if its stuff we can use together..

Yeah, I agree.
It's not unusual to get things for the other person if the relationship is serious.

I'LL SEE WHAT I CAN DO.

I am the cheapest.
xD

Ha.
That I can understand and be willing to accept.
xD