Is there a "perfect" time for marriage? Should there be time frame to pop the question?

A friend of mine recently just had a son. He and his girl has been together for about 7yrs. With a kid in a picture he has been asked countless time when is he gonna ask the question.

His girlfriend doesn't pressure him but I'm pretty sure she is ready.

He doesn't believe just cause he had a kid he should get married. He isn't ready. Is wrong and selfish to not pop the question if you yourself are not ready?

The perfect time is when both think its time.

and preferably before any children are born

why be in a relationship for so long, if you dont plan on taking the next step? dating is getting to know each other and from that evaluate if the person is right for you or not. being in a relationship for seven years clearly indicates that the two parties want to be in each others life for eternity, so why not pop the question and make it official?

Unless you want children, what is the point of getting married?
Married couples pay more in taxes and IF you split up your just paying for lawyers and complicating things.
Better to just date if you don't plan on having a family.

Yes.
Usually between 9am and 1pm. The party can last all night, though.


Sure there is. Most women like to be asked while out on a special date, preferably the evening and where there is lots of people around so she can feeeeeeeeeeel extra special.



How can you pop the question if you're not ready? Wouldn't that be lying to yourself and the one you pop it to?

That seems like a bad question.
Like asking if there is a "perfect" time to eat.

It doesn't really address the end goal or consequences.


Not really.
People can choose for themselves whether or not they personally want to enact time frame enforcement.


Just as wrong to have kids in a seemingly insecure relationship.
If you aren't ready to commit to another adult, another that is perfectly capable of understanding what they're doing, what you're doing, with the ability to leave at any time based on critical thinking, then you sure aren't ready for a kid.
Kids are like the ultimate clingy girlfriend with severe esteem and daddy issues.

Seems kinda like asking "Okay, my friend just murdered 100 people and ate their bodies, but one person shot him in the leg while he was doing it, he went to Walgreens for a band aid and parked in the handicapped spot without a sticker, was it wrong of him to not use his signal when he turned into the space?"

There is no good time to pop that question.

I think it is wrong of him to have children and unfair to be her and there kids and no plans to marry her. If you arent sure that person is the one you want don't do either.

Between the 3rd and 4th grades.
No baggage.

Absolutely! As soon as you realize the other person is rich and doesn't have a prenup ready to go.



Yes. But, that's okay. Sometimes especially when making MAJOR decisions, like marriage, it is perfectly okay to be selfish.