Then that is NOT love. That is infatuation or lust or obsession. Imo

Sometimes we love people in the language that they do not understand...

No that is not my point here... Like a mother to a child, no matter how discipline will the mother show to a child out of love the child will never understand the purpose of the discipline. Same thing in relationship you show them care and compassion still they will take you for granted :)

Sure it can.
In discussive use it's an emotion and a feeling.
Those can always be misunderstood.
Ask anyone that emotionally eats.


Then there's a failure in communication.
It's your responsibility just as much as theirs to learn to communicate effectively.

And it's unfair, but the less responsibility they take that only increases your responsibility to make up for their lack, and it's up to you to decide if you wish to take that on.

And if/when you refuse to do so, you are going to look like the person that isn't giving enough to the relationship.

Life's not fair.


The child can understand it as an adult.
But that's part of what makes them a child...not understanding things.

One thing about children is they will learn mostly from what you do, not what you say. Experience.

You may "say" you love them, but the only thing they're experiencing is what you're doing to them.

People aren't born with an understanding of the social world and a bunch of emotions, and then at some point they are given access to nerves, eyes, ears, tongues, and rational thinking.

Children experience, and learn what that means. They don't know what something means, and then rationally and objectively measure the experience to say "ah, okay, thanks, now I understand better."


Showing care and compassion doesn't entitle you to anything.
Loving someone doesn't entitle you to reciprocation.
Care and compassion may be how you are communicating your love feelings for someone.

But if they didn't really love you in the first place, there is absolutely nothing wrong with them not communicating love feelings in return.
If they aren't the type of person to accept or really respond to care and compassion as behavior communicating love, there is nothing wrong with them for not assigning your methods value.

You love them, you show care and compassion to communicate it.
They love you, they communicate it by not making a big deal out of it, they don't call you weak for being caring and compassionate.
You scream "I'm being taken for granted! I'm showing caring and compassion and not getting it in return!"
They yell "I'm outta here drama queen."

Communication is key.
But their communication is just as important as yours.

English? Lol

Arabic

Someone taking another for granted doesn't stem from having been shown too much care or compassion, in my opinion. The problem isn't with the one showing/giving love, it's with the one receiving it. There are ungrateful persons everywhere, people who think that they somehow 'deserve' to be loved and shown deference, as if they were stuck in some kind of superiority complex. Those people will take you for granted faster than the wedding cake can spoil.
Don't pair yourself with anyone who believes they 'deserve' anything. Those people don't want to work to better themselves in order to be respected or loved and often do not understand the give-and-take of a relationship. Those people will take everything you have to offer then throw you away like an old sock.

Naaaaaaaa. I think she's talking about the language of love which is French.

Je t'aime.

Yeah, but now they insist on Je t'adore. I guess t'aime has had its days.
Parole parole parole...

HAS ANYONE READ THE BOOK''LOVE'' BY LEO BUSCAGLIA ...ITS A FOR REAL EYE

OPENER...HE HAD A CLASS AT USC ''LOVE 101'' U-TUBE HAS HIS VIDEOS YOU MIGHT

ENJOY.....

The languages of love are expressed in many ways and perceived or interpreted in different ways..... through word of affirmation - like saying I love you, quality time - spending special moments with our loved ones, giving or receiving gifts - It's not being materialistic on the receiver's part but a meaningful and thoughtful act of giving by the giver, physical touch - is an expression of one's feeling through kiss, hugs, caress, sexual intercourse, holding hands, pat on the back. Most people communicate their feelings based on their own way of understanding love, preconceived notions, sensitivity, intentions, past experiences, etc. The commonality is we all convey love and most often being misunderstood as every individual have different needs/wants , what you want may not be what the other wants. How you want to love may not be the way she wants to be loved. love is so complicated, both parties should learn how to please each other in ways that you have to discover among yourselves, learning the effective way of showing love. Through real connection, knowing each other well, sensitivity towards each other's needs and feelings, and proper communication by listening, feeling, talking and understanding; I believe these will direct you on how to express and perceive love in the most effective way.

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