Is it wrong to become a loner out of fear? Or to stay single? So you take away the fear or push it way down enough to allow yourself to be fooled into loving another to be burned again? Is it a bad to stay single bcs you do not wish any bs in your life?

Is it wrong to become a loner out of fear? Or to stay single? So you take away the fear or push it way down enough to allow yourself to be fooled into loving another to be burned again? Is it a bad to stay single bcs you do not wish any bs in your life?

Is it wrong to become a loner out of fear?

So you take away the fear or push it way down enough to allow yourself to be fooled into loving another to be burned again?

Is it a bad to stay single bcs you do not wish any bs in your life?

I personally do not believe anyone should allow fear of anything to rule a decision just wondering what others think about this sentiment.

Not if you don't mind the consequences.
If you're a loner out of fear and you're all complainy and whiny about it like "where all the good ones?! Why are they all a-holes? Why don't they get to know me first?!"

Then it's "wrong."


If someone is primarily motivated by fear there is not really any pushing it down or ignoring it and its effects.

All you can do is not acknowledge how it's influencing you.

Someone ruled by fear, motivated to stay away from people, "pushing down fear" to then go find someone are simply not realizing that the people they choose are going to be chosen to validate the fear.

It's just an interplay with natural desires and emotions that are already there (people naturally seek others), colluding with perceived goals based on fear influencing their goals.

So "I'm lonely" and "I fear being hurt" = find someone that will ultimately prove your fear right.


Not really "bad" so much as "naive" to believe that avoiding dating or staying single will lead to avoiding bs in life.


Letting fear rule a decision is really no different than letting happiness, hunger, sadness, anger, hatred, or joy, rule.
One emotion is no better than another.

IMO the "problem" is letting "fear" (or whatever emotion) rule a decision while pretending, or simply not seeing, that it's fear, and that it is influencing a decision.

Desperado,The song by the eagles comes to mind here. It was written about me I think but the lyrics describe a person letting fears keeping them from reaching out for love

Is it wrong to become a loner out of fear? Or to stay single? So you take away the fear or push it way down enough to allow yourself to be fooled into loving another to be burned again? Is it a bad to stay single bcs you do not wish any bs in your life?

The problem with ignoring your fears, tamping them down and going ahead, is that if things do go wrong again, you wont be able to learn from the new mistakes. Not that you will repeat the old ones.

So no,I will NOT say that it is wrong for someone to wait for whatever reason they do.

But what a person does need to do at the same time, is to work to more fully understand their fears, and to know the walls that they have put up for protection, in thorough detail, lest they end up confusing their bandages, with their emotional skin.

Is it wrong to become a loner out of fear? Or to stay single? So you take away the fear or push it way down enough to allow yourself to be fooled into loving another to be burned again? Is it a bad to stay single bcs you do not wish any bs in your life?