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settle for something that we know is less than love? no heart palpatations, you are not getting anxious, nervous cannot wait to see him or her or hear their voice on the phone I don't believe the above is 'love' it is lust triggered by a dopamine release in the brain, it's exciting, new, fun, etc...But definitely not love, a precursor sure...but love nope at least in my opinion everything is quite matter of fact, calm and arranged This on the other hand could be love of the oxytocin variety (pair bonding), or it may not be it would depend on each individuals motivation, If an elderly gentleman comes home every night, helps his disabled wife into a bath, and generally does the same routine day-in-day out.... would any question if he has 'settled' just because he may not get the 'butterflies' ? Love in my opinion is giving of yourself, of your time, doing for someone because you care about them, it isn't selfishly seeking some sort of emotional high for oneself...just my opinion why do this? It's a natural progression of a relationship, granted every now and then you should still try to excite your partner, and rekindle, not to bring love back in, but because but they deserve excitement, and break from routine now and again |
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my man I am talking about that initial attraction and sizzle
that chemistry...and hell yes you better feel something in the beginning not just your brain trying to convince you that she is a nice person.. |
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my man I am talking about that initial attraction and sizzle that chemistry...and hell yes you better feel something in the beginning not just your brain trying to convince you that she is a nice person.. Umm...pardon my confusion then.... right now as we speak I know four couples guilty of THIS situation three of them are married and I am fairly certain due to conversations, things they have said or let slip that they are not in love with their spouse these are second marriages by the way 
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settle for something that we know is less than love? no heart palpatations, you are not getting anxious, nervous cannot wait to see him or her or hear their voice on the phone I don't believe the above is 'love' it is lust triggered by a dopamine release in the brain, it's exciting, new, fun, etc...But definitely not love, a precursor sure...but love nope at least in my opinion everything is quite matter of fact, calm and arranged This on the other hand could be love of the oxytocin variety (pair bonding), or it may not be it would depend on each individuals motivation, If an elderly gentleman comes home every night, helps his disabled wife into a bath, and generally does the same routine day-in-day out.... would any question if he has 'settled' just because he may not get the 'butterflies' ? Love in my opinion is giving of yourself, of your time, doing for someone because you care about them, it isn't selfishly seeking some sort of emotional high for oneself...just my opinion why do this? It's a natural progression of a relationship, granted every now and then you should still try to excite your partner, and rekindle, not to bring love back in, but because but they deserve excitement, and break from routine now and again Wise words.....are they really settling |
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settle for something that we know is less than love?
Fooling in love. Best described as a mental ailment 
no heart palpatations,
Pace maker may be best option you are not getting anxious, nervous
Cognitive therapy is good for anxiety cannot wait to see him or her
Poor impulse control also benefits from therapy or hear their voice on the phone
Depends what the voices are saying as to how urgent therapy is required everything is quite matter of fact, calm
Lets not look a gift horse in the mouth and arranged
oh oh ocd why do this?
My diagnosis is because they are human. This assessment is based on my experience as a retired factory worker Sorry about second posting I'm trying to work out why my original didn't display correctly in the app on my phone but appears to work on my desktop computer |
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Edited by
SimpyComplicated
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Mon 08/01/16 05:30 PM
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settle for something that we know is less than love? Fooling in love. Best described as a mental ailment
no heart palpatations, Pace maker may be best option you are not getting anxious, nervous Cognitive therapy is good for anxiety cannot wait to see him or her Poor impulse control also benefits from therapy or hear their voice on the phone Depends what the voices are saying as to how urgent therapy is required everything is quite matter of fact, calm Lets not look a gift horse in the mouth and arranged oh oh ocd why do this? My diagnosis is because they are human. This assessment is based on my experience as a retired factory worker Sorry about second posting I'm trying to work out why my original didn't display correctly in the app on my phone but appears to work on my desktop computer Well last one didnt work in the app on my android phone. (I'm posting from my windows desktop) Last try because I'm motivated to not bother you all with too many posts you think it's laziness or they have just given up? There is no such thing as laziness only unmotivated Now aint that a head spinner? |
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settle for something that we know is less than love? no heart palpatations, you are not getting anxious, nervous cannot wait to see him or her or hear their voice on the phone everything is quite matter of fact, calm and arranged why do this? I don't, that's why I am here and probably why I have never been married yet. 
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