This looks like a case for Dr. Scholl.

I believe in the Great Pumpkin.

I'll take this one step further.

I have come to realize that the concept of there being a "One For You," or a "Soul Mate," has been possibly THE most destructive concept ever to plague the world of dedicated relationships.

More people cite belief in "The One" as why they decided to cheat, to divorce, or to give up on someone who they had previously vowed forever love to, than any other single concept.

People who have been with someone for years, go on a trip alone, and because they don't realize that the trip itself changes how they feel, they up and decide that the cute wink they just got from someone in another town, was the REAL God-Given mate they were "supposed to find."

People who are doing well with a new dating partner, fall in to doubt, because they figure that "the One" is supposed to make them swoon or lose complete control of their texting thumbs (if it's your bowels, it's the flu, by the way), so they hit the dump button after X number of dates no matter how much compatibility there is.

This is very much how I see it too.

Very well put!

100% with Igor on this.... ;~) It is the most destructive concept. And that is all it is... Is a concept.

I do believe that two people can experience a deeply profound connection and if they're lucky that connection will turn into a lasting relationship.

I think you pretty much described a sould mate there, certainly my idea of a soul mate anyway.

But yes I agree, I think you can have more than one.

I hope so.

You may have a point there, Joe!

Whether we choose to coin the phrase "soulmate", or "relationship" or "partner" , or "marriage" to describe the union we share with someone we love, for me it ALWAYS involves work and commitment.

Too many people hide behind popular mystical terms to exempt themselves from the work, commitment, and sacrifice it takes to make ANY relationship work longterm.

Even the most compatible and in-sync couple in the world have to work on sustaining their love.

And none of us really know if the people we see as soulmates will run the distance with us. Only time will reveal that to us. We only have control over doing our part t o make it last.

And I do agree with you Ruth that there can be more than one person to share that type of connection and partnership with in a lifetime

Heck! I have that deep kind of connection with people I am not even romantic with eg family and dear friends

I have been in love a few times and learned some hard lessons, but in my heart I do believe in soulmates.

I'm happy for both of you, Eva and Rob . . .

Thank you so much for your kind words, Magical.
((( Magical)))

I do believe in soulmates, I knew in my heart someone out there really meant for me and Me for him. In time, it will lead our way . . .

Magical... there is someone special for you.
((( Magical))).

Thank you ms Eva

Just like ms Eva and Rob

I think we should work with the meaning of soulmate before talking about love or maybe we are exaggerating the whole love issue with the falling in live concept. It should all about compactibility and total understanding between two people.

What is your definition of soul mates. I actually have two. One I believe in, one I don't.

Don't believe in soul mates we settle

I may not believe in soul mates but I also don't believe in settling. If I meet a man I fall in love with, who falls in love with me and we can make a life together I'll be there. That's not settling. That's finding love.

very well said. I don't believe in the term "soulmate" either.