Madcatlady
Give it a chance. you both might have been nervous.
Get to know him a little bit more.
Try another one or two more dates.

Maybe you're right but I really want that instant connection and spark. Yes I could date him but it s not fair if my heart's not in it and I don't just want a fling. But I 'm happy to have got past this milestone. I was so scared

Yeah, unless you feel enormous reluctance towards him there is certainly a point!
Your first date in many years, give yourself a break! Often you then have too high expectations of the date, the man and what you're going to feel.
I know I did on my first date. I had this naive idea in my head that I would meet the love of my life right away and things would be hunky dory and we'd live happily ever after, haha.
Real life doesn't work that way.

The best way to get into the groove is to date. So go on that second date. Lower your expectations. Just expect and aim to have a good time, a nice afternoon/evening, nothing more, nothing less.
Don't ever expect to meet the love of your life when you go on a first date with someone, then you cannot really go wrong. If it then works out, it works out, if not you've at least had a good time AND you have been training your social, flirting, and dating 'muscles' which is a BIG plus!! Such skills will help you on other dates with other men.
So unless the man is totally repulsive, go on that second date!! Have some fun in life, enjoy it :)



Well there's some pointers there!
How can you feel a spark when you were so scared? You can't!!!
Your heart doesn't have to be in it, not in that way. A date does NOT equal a commitment, ya know!
The only thing a date is about is getting to know each other. Two single people meeting up for the first time over drinks. NOT two lovers meeting. You are only getting acquainted :)

nope in my opinion there isn't

Thanks for great input ladies- I feel confused

If there is no instant attraction, chemistry or connection on that first meet and greet, I totally agree,no point in a second date or meet and greet . Just dating . ....zzzzzzz

I feel happy, a bit restless, and getting a little sleepy too. Weird combination, lol.

ecstatic...waking up each day with sweet messages from dad is something I look forward for.

days are really better now.

I feel irritated

Men are a complete mystery to me

Cool !

I assure you, it works both ways. Just saying.

I feel...I'm not sure. After a few months of dating, I'm back at the starting line, albeit with a couple of new friends. With everything else I have going on, I suppose I'm due some self-reflection, so I'm going to drink a sugar-free energy drink and see how many miles I can put between me and my home on the bike chasing the moon. I do some of my best thinking at 55 mph with the wind in my ears.

I feel stressed out but satisfied, I stood up for a co-worker and although the Supervisor who has committed so many hateful and inappropriate acts was finally fired, I also earned a week suspension for "inappropriate posting to social media " ( yeah, apparently that's a thing nowadays ). As a single Dad who is like so many and paycheck to paycheck, it hurts the wallet, and I don't think it helped any when I signed the paperwork smiling and commented on how awesome it is to finally have time to get some things done around the house...

I feel irritated and used, having spent an entire day with a lady I had dated for about a month on the bike on a winery tour, only to have her leave me standing alone in a bar where I know no-one while she ignored me around her friends. I don't do disprespect, so I left her there after asking to be sure she could find her own way home and telling her not to call me again. And now, a month later after blocking her number and on FB, she's blowing up my phone from a new number begging forgiveness and wanting to reconnect. I do not reply, and don't plan to, but being alone sucks...and acts like this just make me want to not share my life with anyone ever again.

I feel sad and angry that my son is exposed to my exes' bar trash boyfriend, who was arrested again last week for falling down drunk in a local store and pulling a display down in the process ( public intoxication ), and DUI when he attempted to leave. These are not the morals I want my son to have, and although we really cannot shield our children from things we have no control over, I just as soon he not have to see this kind of behavior...

I feel exasperated knowing tomorrow I'm probably going to have to disassemble half the engine to replace the air conditioning compressor in my car...I hate working on newer vehicles with everything crammed in so close together. I'm of a mind to buy a 1970-something POS just to be able to work on it easier...

So, yeah, lot's going on in my brain. Time to step back and enjoy a ride through the countryside and put things back in perspective.

I feel humbled. Hope you feel better after your ride.
Sending hugs

Excited... Counting down the days before I leave for the beach...

I feel better today, riding has a way of clearing out the cobwebs. I'm actually looking forward to DJ duties tonight and having some fun. Got my tools out this morning, took one look at how much has to come off to replace the a/c, and called the shop. I crossed some other stuff off my list, so I also feel like I accomplished something today...
Thanks for the hugs, they are much appreciated :)

you're welcome. Hey I'm a cuddly girl

I feel like I should have gone on a second date. I am such a coward

Sleepy.

Tired, stressed out and anxious.

dead tired!!!!

from the time I went off for a couple of days to Bangkok for a business trip last week up to this very moment I haven't gotten any decent sleep yet!

work mode still..the plethora of my responsibilities at work really eating me up

Emotional.

Certain guys can sniff out vulnerability a mile off and pick at it like a scab.