I've been on here a few days and a lot of the guys want to rush into a meet. I'm very nervous about this topic. I'd like to take my time and get to know ppl before meeting! It just seems like 80% of the guys on here want to get right to the face to face stuff. I don't like guys moving to quick and pressuring me to meet within a few days of our first chat. Is anyone else having similar feelings?

Yup I feel the same way as you. Lol and let's not forget about the women who want the guys to text a fake number right off the bat. The way I look at it I'm here to protect my information and any one else's who I communicate with.

Okay. Lets meet for coffee at the shop around the corner from your house.

I do get that...it's when we're like two messages into the conversation and they ask to meet...that's when I get scared!!!
I like chatting for at least 2-3 days before considering a face to face meeting!!!

99% of the 80% are probably scammers....be careful what info you give out. Don't give out your e-mail unless you are certain who you are dealing with. A good practice is to use Mingle mail for a few weeks...most scammers will not like this and give up.
If they really are "interested" then they should have no problems getting to know you on here. JMO

is that true Searchin4MyRedwine??
that 99% of the 80% of the guys on here are probably scammers??
uhmm....so ladies be careful for whom you are talking ...
be cautious and be safe ...

I wouldn't rush either,especially when "they" ask for a phone number saying that it's easier..ugh!just take it slow cuz you never know who's the real from the fake

Take it slow
Nothing wrong with basing a relationship on a good friendship foundation.

I am doing exactly that now and there's no pressure or them trying to pretend.to be someone else.

Enjoy it when you have it.

It took 6 months to meet each other's kids and you know that's ok.

We are having fun and doing heaps.
There's nothing sexual at all.

If anything happens cool but if not I'm still happy.

Something that you may see fairly often in forums like this, are people loudly and confidently proclaiming that anyone who isn't ready to meet them face to face within at most, two emails, should be discarded as a "time waster."

This is bravado on their part, there are never any rules to this stuff. In non-online interactions, you'll also run across people who have established a sequence of expectations as well, and they will try to make you feel like you are standing in the way of the forces of nature itself if you refuse to go along.

This is because SOME people want to turn everything into an industrial process, including human relations. Ignore them. They are doing that, because it artificially makes them feel more in control of their lives, much like prejudice of any kind does.

The important thing is, to find and follow whatever process and pace makes YOU feel that YOU are on the right path for yourself. Not either rushed, OR slowed down. Let them follow THEIR instincts, for THEIR lives. If that means that every now and then, someone who you were attracted to ends up rushing by, don't fret. The fact that they were intent on moving at that speed, and oblivious to your sensibilities, means that they would not have been compatible with you even if you HAD set aside your boundaries and considerations.

havent met anyone consistent with what they say here and serious enough to be doing what they say they would. so theres really no reason to be afraid

If they really genuinely like you,
Then they won't rush you...

Take things at your own pace,
Don't allow others to push you around.

Good Luck.

Well said.

I'm safe

Take it slow, no rush, and no pressure! Starts from there you would know for sure if there is chemistry..

Yup...Nothing wrong with taking it slow..

you are the parent
you decide for yourself what speed you are comfortable with

Excellent advice and applicable not only on dating sites, but in a real life situations as well.

lucky u had someone asking for meet up.. I never had that.. LoL

yeap

always take it slow.