why do the ladies you date end up saying oh I been hurt and im just making sure im not going to get hurt? Seems like every female I have ever dated says this and they know your romantic but yet they still say it over and over everyday its like all the moron guys treat them bad and when the do they blame all guys, then they say they never hurt people but yet they still cheat on you or hurt you when you were they best thing that has happened to them? why is this? Why do they treat the good guys that care for them and love them and make them happy like **** and the bad guys get treated good when they shouldn't?

It's not just women it's HUMANS who do this. Humans in general have a really good grasp on being assholes and they use it alot.

i guess because we are cautious..happen to me too..thats y right now i dont want anything serious. i'll date, but nothing serious for a while..it wont be like that 4-ever. i know there r great guys out there. s*** happends sometimes, ya know?

Whitenights

Men have been asking that question for decades now, and the answer's no closer to being found now than it was 60 years ago.

Of course, change the "men" and "women" positions in your post, and ladies can say the same thing. Works both ways.

I've been hurt too many times. All the walls are up and guarded. For a woman to say that and then cheat...is just as equally as guilty. Even thought I might not have been happy in my past relationships, does not give anyone the right to cheat. I've always said and I truly believe this...if your not happy get out of your relationship!!!

hey we have all been hurt and no one likes that feeling, im into dating but dont want to start anything serious for the time being, that doesnt make me tell the way every five seconds that i just dont want to be hurt

Humans do it.

Why?

Because they expect...they always have expectations of the other...and when they aren't met, by another, they blame the other.

No expectations, no way to be harmed.

I expect with all these whiny,generalizing males ,I'll be alone awhile

we don't have to confused insecurity with lack of knowledge of what we want in this life.

Jax, you and me both....

hugs lee

well dear some women cant get past others mistakes so i was dumped i dont hold that against other men you have to give each person their own chance they are alot of bad ones out there but there are women that do the same to men im looking for love and because my relationships in the past didnt work guess they werent mr. right and i should be glad they gone
hope this helps
denise
and no i dont wine about it i just pick up myself and go on

i think the problem is there too much bs on here and we all want someone who is so dreaming but you have to take someone as they are

Woman that have been hurt in relationships are cautious of the nice guys, because they don't want to be hurt. They may feel that the nice guy may have a motive of some sort, and the lady does not want to be taken advantage of.

<----needs some cheese to go with his whine...

Fondue?

we are scare getting hurt but if u feel that way u should give up but we all got to take a risk sometime

fondue !! i'll cut up the bread !!

Come on...Most women live in the moment. If everything is going thier way then everything is good. If they see something they think is better then they move on. If they don't move on then they will complain about you no matter what you do.

Just remember treating a women right in your eyes may not be what they see through thier own eyes. You can do everthing perfectly and they will still find flaws in you.

The best thing you can do is enjoy the time you have with them. When they move on to thier next "Soul Mate" then you need to move on yourself.