I have been asked that question over and over again if true love exist over the internet and I am still of the opinion that it does exist.
If you agree give me your own view. If you don't, lets hear it.

it may exist everywhere. web gives u the chance to meet someone who lives far away, someone close ... someone u would have never had had met . let s use well this chance

I don't think so. This is mostly because it's a mixture of people being judgmental, spammers, and pretenders. This leaves a bad taste for the whole online dating thing. If it does exist in this time and age, then it's just due to extreme luck. Which reminds me, I need to pick up some lotto tickets because I have a better chance winning that then finding love. Wish me luck.

I'd say so. I met someone playing a game about 8 years ago. Ended up being Facebook friends then after a while texting each other pretty much daily. She is 900 miles away so there was no relationship but we have both mentioned the thought was there at some point. Just never the right situation to pursue any real relationship, with that being said we are great friends and have wonderful conversations although recently less. So it's there, just patience I suppose. I know I'm still waiting!

I do not think WHERE you meet someone is any indication
of how deep the relationship is capable of going.

The Internet is like a local PUB, strangers wander in and
out, friends are made, then they return to gather when they
feel the need.

Love can pop up whenever people gather.

hahaha well see now, tis better than a Pub :-)

That and online you don't have to deal with the dreaded bar breath, I mean some of those people need a breath mint with a battery.

hahaha
It never occurred to me.
There is no bad breath online :-)

IMO no.

Well, not really...if you never ever ever ever ever ever ever meet in person and your entire relationship now and forever is via the internet, and you've deluded yourself into believing you're in love, then in practical terms there is no difference, so you "could" say "real love" exists over the internet.

Otherwise, no.

Love is a naturally occurring phenomenon that requires organic growth.
There's a known process in place.



When you lie your brain has to start working harder.
It has to keep track of what you said, and what it knows to be true.

Communication is 90% not what comes out of your mouth, but direct interaction. Face expression, tone, body language, situation, context, etc. Most communication is processed subconsciously.

When you meet someone on the internet and develop a relationship it's not based on reality, only your biased interpretation of black and white text your conscious, decision making self, values. But it forms a normal reality. The internet persona of who you think they are where you've filled in all the meaningful communication from your own head of what you think theirs would be.

When you meet in person you are faced with a different reality. No matter how much you think you've honestly been with each other online there are obvious differences.

It's the same as working with a lie.
Keeping track of 2 things at once.
What you knew to be true (their communication online) and what is real now (their communication in person not based on what you thought it would be).

It creates cognitive dissonance. That causes the brain to work harder.

Human beings are unequipped to operate that way without severe consequences. Pain, emotional pain, uncertainty, fear, insecurity, endorphin triggers, all motivations to get rid of the dissonance. To attack it until it's just one thing or run away from it to go back to normal.

So you meet someone online, you fall in "love" online, you meet in person, then you start acting abnormally. You start acting, without any choice in the matter, your brain simply functions that way, to cure the dissonance.

The other person is doing that too. But the behavior they are presented is your behavior stemming from dissonance.
Over time things normalize, but then what do you have?
A lot of time spent with:
1. Who they were online.
2. Who you thought they were online.
3. Who they were offline dealing with stress and trauma as their mind operates differently than it does normally.
4. Who you thought they would be offline.
5. Their normal selves.

You're faced with all sorts of different personalities, and so are they.

Love goes through a natural process.
You don't choose to love, you can only choose to interrupt the process.
When you're faced with dissonance, when you're faced with insecurity, when you're faced with the unknown, when you're faced with change, your natural, organic, can't be helped because it's not directly controlled by your conscious self, fight or flight instinct is triggered to deal with the problem, to look for problems, to measure solutions, to get away from the scary stuff, to force things into normalcy, mostly because your brain doesn't like working harder.

Your normal, knee jerk after being hit with a hammer, reaction is to interrupt any actual bonding to focus on the problem.

And that's assuming someone is desperate enough to overlook the first differences between on/offline and stick around for a long time.

The internet retards real relationships.

Relationships and emotional attachments are formed offline.

Personal relationships aren't formed via impersonal means, except through delusion, and only if the relationship never ever ever really changes from online to off.

"Real" love can survive internet relationships, but can't develop online, IMO.

The organic process of "real love" should get props despite the morons that believe "we met online, fell in love, and it worked out!"
"Real love" OVERCAME the disease of internet relationship formation, the attraction, or desperation, was strong enough to work PAST the harm done by meeting over the internet.

So, no, IMO "real love" does not really exist over the internet.

..very well said Sophie ..

I once fell in love kissing a woman behind a dumpster so I guess it can happen here.

This.

Plus, of course, it depends on what you mean by "love."

I've had several crushes online, and they were every bit as real as the ones I've had offline. I have come to care about several people I met only through electronics, and that care is just as real as it is for people I have met in person.

If you mean, can you have a purely on line love experience, which is in every way identical to having an entirely in-person experience, then the answer is of course not.

‎I once fell in love kissing a
woman behind a dumpster so I
guess it can happen here.

yes I think. just need some patience and be yourself. and you will find your true love.
just like mark zuckerberg in Facebook. he just meet also her wife in site. and now they happily together and have blessed with one baby.
so its not impossible.

Yes I agree

Sure why not.. true love knows no boundaries.. it doesn't care if you meat in a bar.. at a grocery store..
At your workplace... or online...
It's all about the effort you put into it..

Real love exists everywhere here online or in the real world. The internet is merely a tool, what you make out of it depends on you. Some people are lucky to find their love here online and others are not. Just be patient for love to find you, it will come at the right time. Good luck

Hmmm mr PhD , serious this time. . . Nice words