I am in the process of setting up my mother on a surprise blind date for her b-day coming up. This is why I am on the site for her. I thought this would be a great and unique present versus the regular wrapped gifts. Well, what do you do online daters have to say? I would like a response from peers in her age group 45-55.

it's hard to believe that no one has anything to say on this 'blind date' matter. i would really like some feedback.

Ok, here you go, Make sure the guy you set your mom up with isn't some kind of freak.

hi and welcome to jsh
it hard to answer your question due to the fact that some people, may or may not like the idear of being "setup"
does your mother know this preson? and will they be shaperoned?
this is some things i hope that you have thought of
as for me well....have a barbarque...or some sort of party first and see if your mother even likes this person first
best of luck with your quest

how are you going to screen the applicants you wouldnt want your mom to go out with a looooooooser that would just ruin her day dont you think..not trying to be a downer just realistic any way i hope she has a nice b-day..

and make sure that your mom would go on this date. as for some moms wouldnt go for it, as if i did that for my mom, she would have a major cow as she is pretty much old fashion

thanks for the responses....i certainly don't want to set her up with a loser or a freak. lol!!!! I actually wanted to meet the gentleman first-you know like an interview process-I thought of setting up as a group of 4 with my boyfriend and I included - maybe over dinner. The party idea is a great idea!!! my family woulod love that-they very cool to get along with-thanks reptilekeeper...

Could you imagine the pressure those 4 guys would have?

If my boys did that to me..I would not be very happy with them. Does your mom really want to be fixed up? I know I don't, I look at it this way...if I really wanted to date~~I can find my own guy!!!

Well, plans seem to be changing....At first I was just going to do dinner with 1 gentleman, my mom, and my BF and me. Now, I like reptilekeeper's idea about the party being more social. So, since I love to have theme events, I thought I would take it a step further and have the party be turned into 'The Dating Game'. A host and everything..mimic the old 70s show and the have the guys be concealed behind a wall of some sort and my mom on the other. Then the rest of the party could be an active audience....sounds cool???

Welcome No offense intended but I would not date anyone my children chose for me and I might have to ban them from the computer if I found they were on a single site in my stead looking for me a man. JMO

YIKES,,!!!!!

Being a "mom" myself, with three daughters, when they tell me they want me to 'meet" someone, I RUN!!!

And these are guys they KNOW

Are you finding any guys that are interested in this? Do they want to see a picture at least,,lol

The dating game thing? Well, again, this is just my opinion, but its rough enough getting to know a "stranger" over coffee,,I'm wondering how these guys are gonna do "competing"

ohhhhhhhhhh not a good idea!!!

Unless this plan also includes a video camera and you selling the footage as a reality show, it doesn't sound that great. On the bright side, there is a writer's strike -- you may have a future hit show on your hands.

LOL!!! to johna1311...I just might have a hit tv show with the writers strike and all.
It seems that 2 of the gentlemen I might be able be able to come are pretty cool and wouldn't mind if it's a party. However, I wanted to get someone I think she could be into for a good while- a real good connection. So, I am looking at compatibility. She has been divorced for about 23 years. I'm not giving up. I hope she hasn't. I just thought the 'dating game' would be a fun ice breaker and take the edge off of her and the guys. maybe i should just go back to choosing one good one and have them meet over dinner.

plus, I am not only checking out some gentlemen online, but I am also going through people I know and some family members.

This has been tried before on here with no good results!!! Please tell your mom about it before you make any plans to meet these men for her!!

I would not do that
a bit risky setting your mom up on a blind date
have to be careful these days
also is she ready to date, that may be something she wants to start doing on her own

The idea is different .... kinda scary, I think .... blind dates can be weird enough, but to find one online, and then to explain it .... I'm not so sure.

If my boys did this to me...I would not be to happy with them. I think that the first thing you need to do is make sure your mom really wants to date??? Some times when women hit a certain age..they really just don't want to date anymore!! They like their life simple and by simple, I mean without a man!!

If I tried setting my old mom up with someone from a dating site, she would beat the hell out of me.

I think you should just get her a stuffed animal and call it good.

Not a very smart idea at all.