Must be something you are not doing right

I second your thoughts Unsure. I think the reason so many people who cheat, and fail to break up with their current partner is two fold. As others have said, they are keeping you as a safety net just in case....AND they are cowards.

alright this is a strange way to do it. before the "I dos" me and my wife talked. (idunno how we got on the topic and stuff) but we decided that if there is someone that we really wanted to have sex with then we would DISCUSS it with each other and get approval first. a few rules kept it simple.

1. ALWAYS safe sex.
2. no relationships. its just a temporary thing.
3. never let anyone come between us. i'll always be there for you and you will always be there for me. never risk that.

as odd as it sounds thats a working deal. we reserve that for a "OMG ive always had a thing for them and i might have a chance for a one night stand." situation.

not used it yet. but as long as we adhere to those rules we shouldnt ever have a problem.

what do you mean?

i remember now how it came up. we were talking about celebrities we would love to get in bed. hers was reese witherspoon and mine was fairuza baulk. thats what started it. then we started talking about people we knew that we had a crush on.

misterapathy that's probably the worst idea i've ever heard of.

I personally would kill my wife(if I had one) if she asked me if it was ok to have sex on the side. She would be floating in a river.