My dad is white and my mom is Hispanic. When I recently showed him who I'm dating. He saw her fb pic and then made a funny face to me and said really ? Wtf lol you two are going to look absurd and be the laughing stock. He's not racist but why does he think like this ?

Check existing posts, Interracial dating...

ready for it,,, ? maybe he is racist or maybe he just finds her features too opposite from your own,

we are so quick to make 'racist' this terrible thing to deny, instead of talking about it openly

there is very little chance of being born and raised in America and not learning some type of racism,,,,

many believe on an individual level that people should be treated fairly, yet they also believe people have to 'protect' their cultural identity by only mating within a given race


not the kind of racism where they would ever condone or dream of mistreating another,, but a form of racism all the same

Since my divorce 8 years ago...I have dated a few good women....
When in conversation, I am asked, and I am always asked what kind of woman am I dating......I normally answer.....whoa! a live one...thats all that matters to me...So, my answer would be Nothing wrong..

When I was a kid, my sister wanted to date a foreign exchange student from somewhere in Africa. My parents were cautiously opposed, and my sister suspected racism. But it turned out that they were suspicious of his immigration intentions. He was also a lot older than she was, and she was barely in high school.

So while there is always a possibility of at least ELEMENTS of racism going on all the time, from what I've seen, in a lot of cases it really is more like "coincidental racism." As in, the person IS of a different race, but the real problem is incompatible cultural habits. Someone of the same race, from the same area, would also be a problem.

Racism is still a significant challenge, but it's not ALWAYS what's going on.

It can be tough.

Different races typically mean different cultures. Unless someone is adopted to a different race.

I had been dating a light skinned Hispanic woman for a short time. She kept acting weird. I said what's going on. She said, "Do you know I'm Hispanic?"

So, I replied, "Oh, I'm sorry, I'm Caucasian. Is that not good enough for you? Do you want to brake up?" Then I laughed. Then she laughed.

She was very concerned that I wouldn't want to be with her any more because she was Hispanic.

So, you definitely still have that mentality out there.

That's as bad as the age difference thingy.
There is only one reason someone would say that and it's because he IS racist. Sorry to tell you that but non racist people don't think to say such things.
Most racists don't want anyone to know they are. I know a few who said "it's OK to be racist but don't let anyone know"
What The............

I think its reasonable to suspect large age differences unless the persons happen to be at the same stage of life(one grew up quicker or one has grown up slower, so they essentially are the same age)


I don't think we can really draw a lot of conclusions about what makes people compatible knowing only their race though

I guess sometimes people can't help how they think. There are many people who think dating out of one's race is not good.You can't teach an old dog new tricks, as they say. I say date whomever you wish. I always did, and still do.

You know your dad better than anyone on this Forum and if you say he's not racist then I believe you.
Now he could have said that and have a bunch of other reasons. I can't advance an opinion without seeing who you're dating, seeing the cause of his wincing and comment.