the term "I'm a single Mom"?

I hear this term from women that have the fathers taking the children every week while paying god awful amounts of child support.

I hear this term from married women when their husbands go on a trip or leave for a day.

I hear this from single mothers who never actually have their children because their parents take them and don't charge them a dime to watch the kids.

It's almost like women wear this as a double-sided badge; one side is designed to evoke sympathy and 'things' from others and the other side is designed as a badge of honor.

I know what it's like raising children alone, because I've been doing it for the last 5 years, but the whole "I'm a single mom" thing is getting very old.

Okay, you're a parent that has no partner. Great, we get it. We all have responsibilities and life can be tough, but using this term to hold yourself up in some kind of wonderful light just doesn't cut it anymore.

And maybe I sound like I'm bitter, and that's because I am slightly bitter. When I go to the park with my kids, and I have no woman around, I get some of the most hateful looks from all these "single moms" out there.

I've even had these women grab their children and leave the park while giving me these 'go-to-hell' looks.

I mean, is being a man at a park with his two children that scary of a thing for women? I get that there are pervs that slink around, but I think the reaction I get being a single parent is overkill to the extreme.

And the double-standard of being a single mother and a single father is ludicrous, and quite frankly, disgusting.

We're just parents. Being single isn't the greatest thing for our children (or so the experts tell us), but we are parents. Stop using the 'single' crap to get sympathy or use it as a way to treat others like crap or diminish the struggles of those around you.

Okay, my rant is now over. :)

Well at least it was a good one .

Oh, calm down. Don't attack your fellow sufferers, just because you think you have it tougher than them.

If it makes you feel better, I'm sure we here would be willing to let you register as a "single mom" too.

I'm not complaining about being a single parent - that's my point. Why not troll someone else?

Lol, man up and quit your biatchin!

What does 'manning up' have anything to do with entitled female mentality?

That's another saying that is stupid. 'Man-up' is an overly-used term that is thrown around at any point in someone's life to, I guess, make themselves feel better, or, more like men?

Whatever the case is, I've found those using such terms to be very insecure and lacking in several areas of their own life. I guess that's what happens when your life revolves around your own faux-masculinity.

Relax, you should try the decafe! Your going to blow a gasket!

Watch that Cannibling-Pin,Man!

As you say "Okay, my rant is now over. :) " Is it ?

** Are you saying, "making good eye contact with your kids teachers get them great marks at school".
* Yup! that works everytime haha!
* Should we start a list of "guy" parent benefits !

He can't help it Conrad, he's a bit of a troll. Guess he's here to educate us knuckle draggers.

thats odd really,, in my experience single fathers have gotten pats on the back because the expectation is that women take care of the kids

and single mom is a statement of marital and parental status,, whether someone is a good parent or spouse is irrelevant to that

Ive known people to say they are married even though they are never around for their spouse OR their children



doesn't change the fact of their marital status though

you say you sit in park alone with your kids without having a woman
yet decide to make a thread degrading parents that happen to be single and female...hmmmm


good luck on your dating goals

being a single parent is a choice. better to raise a child than to have an irresponsible partner. it doesnt degrade ur own personality. as long as u work ur *** off for your kids, that what really matters. pity to those who have no kids because at the end of a tiring job, they got no stress reliever. aint it wonderful to go home to find ur kids achieve something or learn new things. this what make us unique and i often received a SUPERMOM compliment. being a single parent doesnt make u just part of a system. its makes you more than a whole part of the system. just enjoy, value and cherish a great time with your kids. travel and learn with them while they are young. someday u have memories to cherish coz when the right woman appears, ur more than prepared.

Good post B!

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Usually when they say ''I'm a single mom'' most of the times it implies '' hey I have the worlds load on me being a single mom yet I'm doing it, I don't need no man I'm a superwoman, girl power, women empowerment''
Yet they still deeply long for a man

Ugh..
They are being honest & saying they are a package deal. And perhaps... saying they have many things in their life. That a new guy is not going to be top priority. So don't expect it.
So they can not be accused later or deception & entrapment.
It also gives the guy an opening to say if he has kids , and if they are in or out of wedlock & how many kids with how many women.? Are they living with him? Is he playing child support, alimony? Are the kids grown & leeching off him?


Oh yea.. We want to k ow, just like men want to know.

yep it always comes across as rather odd
when a man says yes he has kids but they don't really talk to each other