my point exactly...

Why is it so hard to accept he is not interested in you.
Maybe lying is a easier option so he doesn't have to say a sermon why.

I just say ok sweet, thank you and run. Lol no loss I ain't got not time to mourn over something that's not ment to be.

Exactly!!! If a person feels something for you, he or she will give you such importance by calling you or texting you, if not then move on, be bothered if family members don't make contact rather than just an acquaintance

Good time or whatever it was, both should have enjoyed those moments and I guess being matured people you just have to cherish it and become a part of a beautiful memory in your life and not having regrets after....just sayin'

Many women apparently don't take it that well, and there can be drama, tears or anger (depending on how deep the connection was of course).
PhD says they don't want to hurt our feelings, but mostly it's guys not liking drama. It makes them uncomfortable. Not much to do with not wanting to hurt our feelings, it's about themselves

If there was ongoing contact and he says he'd phone, but doesn't, advice from experts is that you can send ONE message, and ONE only. That should be playful, flirty, and a statement. NOT EVER a question or anything clingy like
"Why didn't you phone me?" or "Want to go out tonight?" NO QUESTION!!! That expresses neediness, no one likes that.
If you can refer -in a playful lighthearted way- to something you talked about or saw/did on a date, great! Do it!

In case he simply has been busy or was in two minds or whatever, the right type of message might make him call you right away, seeing you're not whingy and whiny and needy, but a strong playful woman.
If however he does NOT call or text back, delete him from your phone and mind, then he's not into you.

Oh, and of course if he takes a week or longer to call/reply, F him! You're a grown woman, you got standards and a life, you're not just waiting by the phone for some dude to call.
If it takes that long, they say the guy in question has been 'test driving' others in the meantime. You don't want that guy.

a week...man your house better be on fire

your dog ran away, your mama is in the hospital

and you are being investigated by the IRS

No one likes to feel rejected,and I understand your need for closure happygypsygirl

But it's way too much for you to expect of most people, in the callous world we live in.

Try lowering your expectations of these men. No matter how great a date goes, always understand that the date he has the same night as you or the night after you, may have gone better than the date with you, which may lead to you being eliminated without warning. Try not to take it personally.

In addition to that, I'm not suggesting that you sleep with every guy, but try meeting as many interesting guys as you can, whether online or offline so that all of your energy wont be so heavily invested in that one guy who may or may not call again. You can cut off contact with the other guys if or when this guy continues to message you REGULARLY or asks you out on other dates.

Invest energy ONLY WHERE YOU GET IT.

What seems to work for me the best is the "it doesn't really matter" attitude. It's not a game..what it is..is men don't like clingy or controlling women and they sense this type right off. Some men do but they wouldn't usually be the kind of man strong "emotionally" women would want anyways. In my experience I find that men call me far more often when they know they aren't the center of my world lol . It's all phsychological.

And I agree with Crystal that men are uncomfortable with drama so they lie.

I should rephrase " it's all cool...call me whenever you have time" is what I meant.
Everyone needs to know that they are cared about so a woman needs to call as well but don't be pushy. Anyways that's my experience in what works for me.

Exactly, hahaha. But I was feeling generous ... But I think anything between right away and 24 hrs is somewhat better.

I have always thought if you say you'll call then you should call but that's just me

I've thought about this. If you are on a first date with someone and you're having that feeling by the end that you're not into wanting to go out again, how do you end it? This was nice. Bye.

pretty much

Or...it was nice meeting you..shake his hand and don't mention anything about calling or making a second date

Yeah. I always say something like, you're really great, but I just don't feel it/a click. I wish you all the best on your path. Thank you for the afternoon.
Something like that.
I always am nice and polite, so they don't feel chitty. No reason to make someone feel shite.

If they get rude, I simply turn around and walk away OR first say "I'm sorry you feel that way."
I do not start an argument, not even when he's angered me. It just shows that my decision was right, as such a man can clearly not handle disappointment and feels rejected right away. I want an emotionally mature man, not some child who'll start whinging or gets angry whenever there's disappointment in life.

Happened to me once that a man got rude, mostly they're just disappointed or a bit flabbergabbered. But then at least they know where they stand.

These days if a guy says they will call and don't, I figure they don't like me much and that's the end of it. To tell you the truth, I don't know what I think a man should say to me at the end of a date if they have no intention of going out again.

Same thing --> You're a great woman, but I ain't feeling it.

This right here is the main reason I Pay my way... And when I know it isn't going to work..I smile thank them for their time.... shake their hand.. and as I walk away I wish them the best in their search.end of story...

First dates honestly IMHO there isn't a lot vested there ...it is a meet and greet to see if we want to date so to me if someone says I will call you I am like sure you will ...
Seeing is believing on this stuff.

In the event of a potential rejection, maybe men and women should start walking with small consolation prizes in their purse or wallet.

I wouldn't mind weeping my way through a free avocado facial

Equality of the sexes....
Both are guilty of this....
Not very nice though....