do all guys expect a beauty....do all guys put off talking to someone because they think someone better will come along

Yeah, men are pretty much dating the "ugly" girls to use them as an easy lay. At lest that's what my guy friends say. Most likely, they will stay with her untill they become interested in someone else. Bummer!

Not really

well that gave me hope lol

my last post was for doesn't play well

Hi Lilikins.....I really liked your response. Moreover, I loved how you avoided generalizations.

-Drew

That's the thing I really like about the Mutual Match feature on this site ... if you're interested, you click yes. And if they're also interested, then it's all good. You don't have to spend a lot of time trying to find someone that you're interested in, only to find out they're not interested in you too.

Not everyone expects a babe. But sometimes people do expect too much physical attractiveness. As a rule, I always click 'No' if a guy's profile seems like he's leaning too much toward having a perfect person ... because I'm not perfect. I've had two kids, my body's not exactly model quality.

well ill find a guy soon

I hate how some women stereotype every guy as just constantly looking for sex. Not all guys are like that. I'll admit there are quite a few, but not every guy is like that.

i never said they wanted sex

DPW, just keep looking. Just because it takes some longer than others, doesn't mean you won't find someone.

No you didn't. I was actually talking about the response from Lilikins.

I think that one thing that would help is if people (both men and women) would be honest about their physical state. People sometimes become super-noble and utter things like "Looks don't matter a damn bit." Uggg!!! It would be more honest to say that looks are a part of the person, that they play a roll. To what extent is up to all of us as individuals, but being honest is a good way to allow people to make a decision based on who you really are, and not just what a profile can hide.

-Drew

oh ok

There are bad apples on every tree. Does that mean we should cut down the tree? Of course not, because there are also good apples on that tree. You have to take time to find the good ones. Generalization is never a good statement.

myself i do not judge a gal on JUST beauty.if the gal seems to be pushy in either money or talking(controling) i WILL tell her off.no lies = respect.

i want some one that does what she says. close to my age. i would like a woman that is realistic about relationships. i'm no model or movie star and i'm ok with that. most woman look for some one that will impress their friends as do most men. but when we are alone we just want someone to want us. both men and woman do about the same when it comes to (trading up so to speak)dating. you date untill you find the one that fits, its a process. but untill you make a commitment i think its all fair. after the commitment is made. then both men and woman that do stay in that relationship until someone better comes along make it harder for the ones who will stand on that commitment.so fear that you will wind up being used keeps us in waiting and thinking . i will wait until i find the so called perfect match.passing up the ones who just might be the one so desperately searched for.we all have an idea of what we want our mate to look like.what does your mate look like?willyou settle for just whatever or do you want to weed em out until you find the one? dating SUCKS but if you want to find someone you have to go thru it.or try the mail order mate service. i'm just ranting,lol

i dont care what they look like as long as they are close to my age and treat me right

Not "ALL" guys expect a beauty, but "MOST" guys want a former Miss America who does brain surgery and is independently wealthy. Oh yes, and is a nymphomaniac. :-)

lol