So, Amazingly and surprisingly to myself and totally out of the blue, I've managed to get myself a Girlfriend. Although it has taken me until the age of 28 to finally have someone find me because I am too shy to ask anyone out.

So it all started at work that I got a phone call out of the blue and it lasted about half an hour. She worked at another store and so I got the impression that she spends most of her time ringing other stores when she gets bored and talks to everyone. After having what seemed like the strangest phone call ever, the following day I mentioned it to my boss who said "oh thats ***** from ******** **** store". At least I knew who it was. So during the next several months she rang on and off and we talked but to be honest it was more her talking about work and general gossip from within the company and then often she would go on about other people trying it on to sleep with her and all sorts of other things. I never thought anything of it and just thought she rang me because she was either bored or realised that I would just happily listen to her.

Then one day I had to cover a shift at her new store as she had just transferred to another store but she had to cover a shift at her old store so an hour before our shifts she suggested that we go for coffee. So I arrived an hour before and she gave me a hug (this was the first time of meeting her in person) and I got my bearings in this new store and then we went for coffee across the road. Being cautious and dumb at the same time, I left my wallet in my car so she ended up paying for coffee, although mine was a can of pop. So after chatting for almost an hour we parted ways and went to work.

The week after I was off all week and then the week I came back, I received a text off my assistant manager saying that this is her number and that I have to take her out for tea on friday and that i'm paying. I was completely shocked because I just thought she was a colleague and that she just moaned a lot but I didn't realise she liked me. So knowing that I can't ask people out, yet having been given her number, with her likely expecting a response from me, I decided to pluck up some courage and asked her where she would like to go on friday. On friday I was working the early (5am-2pm) and at 2pm when my colleague came in to allow me to go home, he mentioned that she said I was taking her to Nandos, so I took her to Nandos which had a long queue so we went to pizza hut and it got better from there on in.

The second time I took her out we went to Nandos and then went back to her parents place to watch a film. The third time we were both off so I picked her up and we went strolling around a lake, we went round 3 times before getting hungry and going to McDonalds. We went back to her parents and lay in her bed, chatting and since her parents were at home I didn't think we were going to do it but to my surprise it just happened, she stole my virginity away and gladly too. Since then, being sad as I am, we have had sex 9 times and I personally find her totally amazing but this is where my doubts are coming in. After trolling through her facebook and twitter it would appear based on stuff she shares that she is afraid of commitment and also doesn't really have a relationship as such, but instead has a friends with benefits type of relationship. So this has got me thinking that the long-term is out of the equation and that I need to make the most of the short-term while I can. Thoughts?

Just a question, You lost your virginity at 28??

And about your relationship with her i cant say much at this point its kinda early to conclude, she could be looking for fun only or could feel different towards you and would want something more, it could be other things too but its how you feel about it all & if you having heartly feelings for her youre already screwed
J/k

I could go all out technical and say it was days before my 28th bday making me 27 but basically yeah, when your timid and only ever managed to get a GF to like you for a few days or a week it kinda makes it hard. But since she came into my life and picked me out of the crowd whilst openly telling me that many other people are trying to get in her knickers but shes not interested and then to get my manager involved to get me to take her out makes me think that she likes me a lot and I kind of just went along with things because like all relationships I have had I thought I may as well get some experience out of it if nothing else and when I took her out I started to realise that I do actually like her, I hadn't developed any feelings for her before because we were just colleagues. Then a few weeks later she allowed me to conquer my fear in the bedroom (another reason why I was still a virgin because I literally feared getting to the showdown and me being **** at it). So literally she is like an angel to me by barging her way into my life and making everything ok and taking away my worries. I am unbelieveably lucky that she has found me and tolerated me and still tolerates me and I just don't want this train ride to come to an end any time soon.

Its really too early to tell. It could go any direction at this point. But you may want to ask her if she plans to be exclusive with you at this point. If she says its too early to tell, you will have to decide if you are ok with her sleeping with other guys while sleeping with you

Thats great buddy.
You have to make your intentions clear sooner or later & know of hers too...but these are the early stages i hope it works out with what you looking for with her & u didn't mention her age..
When you get to know her better it'll knock off the doubts & worries i guess but i would suggest guard your heart.. Women are very complex beings

congrats on your encounter... a confidence builder for you!
enjoy the ride while it lasts, which could be 50 years or 50 days.. If you speak to her by phone every couple days, you will find out where she is coming from in regards to a relationship with you -
as for her facebook and twitter posts... everyone wants to settle down sooner or later, don't they?
I would continue your life as you used to do..working her in,.. dating, dinners, movies, hanging out.. and see where it goes.. like the OP said, its early stages..
Good luck!

It seems that she only has one relationship at a time so doesn't sleep with others but it would appear that she is only in a relationship with me for the benefits of a FWB relationship and that at some point she might decide that there aren't any more benefits to be had and due to me feeling like I am an amateur in the bedroom due to my lack of experience I feel that day could arise soon.

She is 24 this September, See if she is afraid of commitment, that I can handle because to be honest I don't really see the point in marriage. Its the fact that she seems to treat relationships like a FWB relationship, however I am hoping that with her reaching a more mature stage in life now that perhaps she picked me with greater intentions but who knows and also I think being the amateur I am in the bedroom, I actually think I have surprised her on more than one occasion but feel like I need to keep that up to prolong the train reaching its stop.

since you've had 'sex' 9 times or more, you are no longer an amateur..
Now its time for you to practise together and learn how to please each other..
ask her...a clue to a good time..

That is basically my plan, I get the feeling that she thinks I only want her for sex, which simply can't be true because prior to going out with her, I didn't know what sex was like and so as well as finding her attractive and funny and amazing, I do enjoy the sex but also want to ensure she enjoys it just as much, if not more. It is almost in the back of my mind that women "fake" orgasm and so I just assume that I am only really satisfying my needs but the last time we did it, I gained a second wind that I think totally surprised her and she seemed to have enjoyed it. I just want to be able to constantly mix things up and keep it exciting and enjoyable for her, I want to be able to push the boundaries and perhaps take her where no man has taken her before.

well, you're not superman... buy her flowers or a trinket here and there, or do something for her.. maybe no man's done that for her before..

With some women, reticence in a man is very attractive.
And perhaps why she has seemed the aggressor.

But people evolve every day, 24 is young to decide your
entire future..I would let her lead the way as that seems
to be the dynamic with which she (and you) is comfortable.

Try maintaining who you were before you met her, while you
are with her, and when you are apart..in the end, that will
be the draw, who you really are.

Cherish that part of you, nurture it, protect it.
All will be good :-)

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