I am a rookie in this type of dating, just wanted some honest feed back, shoots thanks for viewing have a blessed day

WELCOME.....SET BACK RELAX AND WATCH THE CRAZIES \,,, AND JUMP IN WHEN YOU GET A

CHANCE......

WELCOME.....SET BACK RELAX AND WATCH THE CRAZIES \,,, AND JUMP IN WHEN YOU GET A

CHANCE......

Thanks for the advice you da Man!!!

Hi Kanaka2

Add more photos... it is one way of showing you are real.
Use a photo that shows your face clearly as a main profile pic.

Under Interest you put "Talk is cheap my actions speak louder than words"
Nope, that is not an interest.

Interests means what you enjoy doing. For example since you are from Hawaii, you can say dancing hula or you like luau, or you like Hawaii 5-0

Your written profile needs revision. I would suggest not mentioning that your wife cheated on you. It seems that you are still bitter and not ready to move on. And you are not ready for any new relationships. Being separated means you are still married.

Focus on yourself and your kids right now.

Join us here in the forums. Most of the regular posters are friendly and ready, willing and able to give you advice through these dark days of your life.

Welcome to Mingle2
and I wish you all the best in your journey

Tell me.do i appear to laid back

First I want to welcome you to Mingle. This is a good place for fellowship and friendships besides dating opportunities .

I would also recommend you give yourself some time to finish up the previous relationship so that when you are ready for a relationship it has a better chance at being successful.

As your profile is written you sound hurt and angry, and that is natural given the circumstances, but you are going to have to deal with it and not carry it over to your child or other future relationships.

While there are many books on adjusting after a marital failure since you say you are a person of faith I recommend reading Linda Mintel's Breaking Free From Anger & Unforgiveness, Gregory L Jantz's Controlling your Anger before It Controls You. and an older book by Robert Schuller Jr Getting Through The Going Through Times. Or just using a good concordance program and study on what your Bible tells you about anger and healthy relationships.

When you have healed I think you probably want to contemplate what you really offer in a relationship. If you can not tell a person what you are about at your age; what your lifestyle is , what you enjoy doing, where your life plan is headed, and look them in the eye with a smile on your face this whole dating on line is probably going to turn out to be a bust for you. Here it is a give and take process not just demanding what you want.

Is it possible that you can immediately find a scammer or a broken soul to be miserable with? Sure. But if you really want a working dating experience and hopefully find a healthy relationship give it a real chance and do the work that is still not behind you. Separated is not single.

Thanks for the advice it means a lot to me, I appreciate it take care aloha

Again thanks for the advice, you are all awesome, and very wise, I appreciate the books to read, adjustment of my profile interest, and adding more pictures. When I am ready as you both stated then I will definitely change my whole profile, yes separated is not Single I feel the same mainly I'm just looking for more friends, I will definitely try to join you guys on the forums when I have the chance.....again thanks for the mentorship and guidance may you all have a fun blessed day stay safe, and take care Aloha