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Topic: Waiting until marriage to have sex ?
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Tue 05/10/16 01:19 AM
I'm 19 now and this has been on my mind for the past few years that I would want to wait until marriage to have sex. This is not only a religious thing for me but also a moral one. I lost a relationship 2 years ago with someone who I really liked because I refused. I try to think it was the right decision since it's over now but I don't know. Would you say I've made the right decisions and that I should wait ? Some people tell me that you have to know whether you're compatible ect ?

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Tue 05/10/16 06:58 AM
Since you are only 19, I suggest you concentrate on your education and worry about that. When you meet a significant other with similar morals, then worry about waiting for sex..if you wanna wait, wait..its neither right or wrong.

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Tue 05/10/16 07:35 AM
I sooooooo read this as waiting for massage to have sex

was gonna pop in and say hell ya might be a good idea bigsmile

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Tue 05/10/16 09:00 AM
Since you are only 19, I suggest you concentrate on your education and worry about that. When you meet a significant other with similar morals, then worry about waiting for sex..if you wanna wait, wait..its neither right or wrong.



I so love your ideas.. :)

some kids nowadays are playing too much fire. your right wait or finished your goals in life, . goodluck

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 05/10/16 09:51 AM

It does not mean to say, that had you had sex, your relationship would have been anymore successful than it turned out to be. If you want to wait until marriage before having sex, that is your decision, and it should be respected by any future partner in my opinion.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

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Tue 05/10/16 10:04 AM
Waiting until marriage to have sex ?

Waiting can't really be defended morally or by religion in a rational or logical way.

Would you say I've made the right decisions

No.
Nor would I say you made the wrong decision.
You just made a decision.

That's what adults have to do every day.
And then they experience the consequences and either accept them and move on, or don't and wallow in insecurity.
Which influence their next decision(s).

I should wait ?

I don't care.
Whether you do or not won't effect me in the slightest.
The only thing I would even minutely care about is being honest about the reasoning.

Some people tell me that you have to know whether you're compatible ect ?

Some people tell you all sorts of things.
When I was younger I was told if you just put the tip in you couldn't get a girl pregnant.
I was told to wait until I had something better to offer a woman before "settling down."

All sorts of childish things get passed around and believed in for no good reason other than it's what they chose to do/believe themselves and in order for them to feel it was "right" they have to get others to do/believe it too.


Here's 2 things:
1. The longer you put something off, the more stress it creates, the harder it becomes to do, and once it's actually done you realize how little effort it took and you shouldn't have waited so long to do it in the first place.
2. No matter what you choose to do you will always be right and wrong.

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Tue 05/10/16 10:10 AM

I'm 19 now and this has been on my mind for the past few years that I would want to wait until marriage to have sex. This is not only a religious thing for me but also a moral one. I lost a relationship 2 years ago with someone who I really liked because I refused. I try to think it was the right decision since it's over now but I don't know. Would you say I've made the right decisions and that I should wait ? Some people tell me that you have to know whether you're compatible ect ?


never tell a woman no on sex... fastest way to ruin any relationship you might have had with her...

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Tue 05/10/16 10:25 AM

Since you are only 19, I suggest you concentrate on your education and worry about that. When you meet a significant other with similar morals, then worry about waiting for sex..if you wanna wait, wait..its neither right or wrong.



I so love your ideas.. :)

some kids nowadays are playing too much fire. your right wait or finished your goals in life, . goodluck


Thanks :smile:

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Tue 05/10/16 10:25 AM


It does not mean to say, that had you had sex, your relationship would have been anymore successful than it turned out to be. If you want to wait until marriage before having sex, that is your decision, and it should be respected by any future partner in my opinion.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Thankyou :smile:

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Tue 05/10/16 01:25 PM
Nothing wrong with waiting for marriage. It is a personal choice and if others cannot understand that then to heck with em.

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Tue 05/10/16 02:19 PM

Nothing wrong with waiting for marriage. It is a personal choice and if others cannot understand that then to heck with em.

drinker

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Wed 05/11/16 03:30 AM
I think u made the perfect decision if this is something that u truly believe in and it's something that u are determined to stick to them yes if the person u were with didn't to understand and accept it well then that's not the person u need to be with i wish I would have stuck to the same thing it would have made my life a whole lot easier in highschool lol

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Wed 05/11/16 06:55 AM

I think u made the perfect decision if this is something that u truly believe in and it's something that u are determined to stick to them yes if the person u were with didn't to understand and accept it well then that's not the person u need to be with i wish I would have stuck to the same thing it would have made my life a whole lot easier in highschool lol

Lol thanks

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Wed 05/11/16 07:18 AM
Its a personal decision, but anyways no one have the right to judge you for your own thing .. Peace

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Wed 05/11/16 07:19 AM

Its a personal decision, but anyways no one have the right to judge you for your own thing .. Peace

drinker

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Wed 05/11/16 07:22 AM
:thumbsup: :smile:

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Wed 05/11/16 07:23 AM

:thumbsup: :smile:

:smile:

no1phD's photo
Wed 05/11/16 03:09 PM
.. lube and Kleenex ..all I can say..
Lol.wink

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Wed 05/11/16 04:55 PM


I'm 19 now and this has been on my mind for the past few years that I would want to wait until marriage to have sex. This is not only a religious thing for me but also a moral one. I lost a relationship 2 years ago with someone who I really liked because I refused. I try to think it was the right decision since it's over now but I don't know. Would you say I've made the right decisions and that I should wait ? Some people tell me that you have to know whether you're compatible ect ?


Your a 19 year old guy and the A # 1 thing on your mind is NOT getting laid??????

My advise... talk to your doctor about this.

My advice is to go back to school and retake English class. *you're.

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Wed 05/11/16 04:55 PM
I had sex with a cheerleader from my hs at 16 outdoors. Within 2 months I had ducked 4 of her friends. It's like an addiction

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